when did you realize your bestfriend wasn’t your bestfriend?

@CountScrofula @AmbivalentFriability Well, there are times where a lot of people just don’t know or are truly unaware. And I think as a community we do have that option to educate them a bit and make that little change. It’s obviously not anyone’s job or responsibility, but I think it does make a difference. 😀 I know it’s not exactly the same situation or deal, but as a black person there have been and are a lot offensive things people have said ignorantly around me without even realizing it or not being unaware and thinking it’s okay just from not being aware; especially with me living in the south it’s actually quite common. Not to say it’s okay, but A lot of the time it’s just due to ignorance and not being educated on the matter, and I definitely can make that bit of difference by changing that. Like, I always thought “queer” was offensive, but seeing you describe yourself in that way it’s obviously not. These are touchy subjects and can get weird, but I think for you especially being a queer person you have that option to make a difference. We all can of course, but you have an even more advantage by expressing exactly how you feel about the situation. I learned a lot just from you expressing your feelings on the matter. So I think you were very helpful.

@Stark Not everyone in the lgbt+ community is comfortable using the word queer since it used to be used to refer to us negatively in the past, but a lot of lgbt+ people are using it as sort of an umbrella term for being not straight and/or cis-gendered.

@Stark I totally get what you mean about people sometimes just being unaware that what they're saying is probablematic. Being expressive about that makes me really nervous, I worry a lot about the backlash.