Why this aversion to marriage among the newer generations?
I find people the age of my parents and grandparents believing that marriage is as inevitable a part of life as death. 🤷♀️😅
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CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@helenS Tell me when you decide to publish it.
I´m strongly interested in reading it.
From my personal experience, my Ex wife was pushed for decades to a psicotic state, by dennying to herself and others that she never deeply wished to be married and have kids.
Her libido, all of it, was elsewhere.
I sometimes feel guilty cos I did not become aware of that in her earlier.
She recovered when she felt free to follow her own passions.
Wich were not me and neither our daughters.
So, I have some stories, decades long, about that matter.
And some later experiences, in other relationships, confirmed that, below conciousness, not few people haves some nternal contradictions about.
I´m strongly interested in reading it.
From my personal experience, my Ex wife was pushed for decades to a psicotic state, by dennying to herself and others that she never deeply wished to be married and have kids.
Her libido, all of it, was elsewhere.
I sometimes feel guilty cos I did not become aware of that in her earlier.
She recovered when she felt free to follow her own passions.
Wich were not me and neither our daughters.
So, I have some stories, decades long, about that matter.
And some later experiences, in other relationships, confirmed that, below conciousness, not few people haves some nternal contradictions about.
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@helenS I think that, with what I´ve experienced along relationships, I can have an understanding glimpse of what happens to you.
Not at all because I feel the same way. Not me.
But, at some point, I gained some kind of empathy with the women I loved. Even if that understanding implied to let them go.
Not at all because I feel the same way. Not me.
But, at some point, I gained some kind of empathy with the women I loved. Even if that understanding implied to let them go.
Spokeskitties75 · 46-50, M
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Caution is probably a better word than aversion. The world has changed a lot and stability doesn't exist anymore the way it did decades ago. Permanent jobs are rarely offered nowadays and we became more mobile, which affects almost everything in life.
Previous generations mostly spent their whole life in one region, in one house aside from their parental one and having a single job for decades. The current generation is rarely offered a job for more than a few months, almost forcing them to change their entire life every few years. (Moving way further than our grandparents ever did, leaving their social network behind and building a new one, making a new house their home, dealing with an entirely different financial situation, etc.) On top of that, "life long" lasts decades longer now than for previous generations thanks to medical advancements.
I don't think the willingness to commit changed much, but pretty much everything that affects it did. As people hardly know where they themselves will be in two years nowadays, it's only logical to hesitate about making promises about their own life in 50-70 years, let alone about staying with a significant other for that period.
Previous generations mostly spent their whole life in one region, in one house aside from their parental one and having a single job for decades. The current generation is rarely offered a job for more than a few months, almost forcing them to change their entire life every few years. (Moving way further than our grandparents ever did, leaving their social network behind and building a new one, making a new house their home, dealing with an entirely different financial situation, etc.) On top of that, "life long" lasts decades longer now than for previous generations thanks to medical advancements.
I don't think the willingness to commit changed much, but pretty much everything that affects it did. As people hardly know where they themselves will be in two years nowadays, it's only logical to hesitate about making promises about their own life in 50-70 years, let alone about staying with a significant other for that period.
ImKelsey · 26-30, F
@TheIncredibleHulka Thanks
Peppa · 31-35, F
Coz money makes people grabbing, malicious, cunning, scheming and heartless.
If you're ever concerned with how modern society is look at the people with old money, they marry rich to stay rich, have a close knit to maintain the status quo and develop more business. There's no place for love if there's money avd and things to be had.
Only the poor find love...
If you're ever concerned with how modern society is look at the people with old money, they marry rich to stay rich, have a close knit to maintain the status quo and develop more business. There's no place for love if there's money avd and things to be had.
Only the poor find love...
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@TheRascallyOne that's what everyone likes to think.
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@TheIncredibleHulka But I will succeed where others have failed
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@NaughtyPickle I never got any respect just for being married.
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SteelHands · 61-69, M
Historically it was to a man's advantage to wed and create progeny but now thanks to inequitable divorce settlements that favor women, laws and courts that permit by turning a blind eye to false accusations, and women being encouraged to be physically abusive, marriage is no longer a wise undertaking for any man.
