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what do i do?

my boyfriend wants to marry me well he is 21 and i am 19 studying second year of my college.
he has promised me that i can do any job i want i can freely follow my dreams.. He will support me even after marriage ( thats not common in my country)
he is in so hurry
what do i do?
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
Marriage is built on solid foundations. Not promises.. And on a separate issue. If you were ready for this you wouldnt be asking us. So you KNOW the answer.
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@whowasthatmaskedman its not that i dont trust him. i know him from childhood..
i am just confused you know marriage is a very big thing..
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@SW-User Tell me about it. I am 45 years married. And if you were mine I would tell you to finish school first. And I would make sure it stuck.
@whowasthatmaskedman Beautifully written . 👌
Thanks.
Viper · M
Sounds like he's moving faster than you are ready for and you don't fully trust him (yet), so slow it down.


Also I don't know him, so I don't know if he's being truthful or just telling you what you want to hear.

And to tell you a secret, he might not know either... as he might be caught up in an emotional wave, where everything is perfect, but when everything is perfect, it's hard if not impossible to tell what you'll do when everything starts going to hell in a hand basket.
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@Viper there are no trust issues we are childhood buddies but marriage is the big decision
Never rush marriage. You will live to regret it..
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@Majorlatency the thing here is i knoe him from childhood he was my bestfriend and now boyfriend
@SW-User You are both very young. No matter how much you know each other you need life experiences and time to mature in others company. Marriage is a long term commitment.. just look at the statistics its generally not working very well..
in10RjFox · M
And which country is that ? It's good to marry early in some countries especially if its islamic one.. and it's not good for other countries.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@in10RjFox It is a fairly safe assumption in this place that the point of reference is America, since a large number of home grown Americans believe their country is the centre of the universe. This should not be taken as a fault in them, since their government and media only relate stories which directly impact America.
KA9ha · 31-35, M
do not fall into his trap... balance your options and ask him to have patience.
Does he work and earn enough for setting up a home/family support or will he be dependent on your earnings??
can he show you his bank balance and sum in his deposits?
Does he have support from his family or will you bean outcast?
Is he in a different country? If so be very very careful of his and your moves...
slow down your moves and keep your eyes ears ,senses open to fraud
Please wait for few more years .
Its too early for you at this age .
midnightsun · 26-30, M
So cringe

Little kids hahhaha
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@midnightsun technically we are adult we both lol
midnightsun · 26-30, M
@SW-User oh.. ok!! 😭😰😂
gregloa · 61-69, M
Ditch him. He’s not going to have a baby
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@gregloa i dont doubt on his manhood..lol
i think we are off topic here right
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
Finish your education no matter what.. marry if you want to that's fine but only if YOU really want to as well and make very sure that you will be able to continue your education. don't be in too much of a hurry to have kids..

This way you will be able to support yourself and him if something were to happen to him.. and/or you can contribute to both your futures
dale74 · M
Wait till you finish school and decide what you want as a career then get married unless you want to be a stay at home mom and wife then do that it is tough to do but rewards are endless.
TexChik · F
Finish school , make your career by your own wit and sweat ...and enter a relationship , not as a beholding woman
what do you want to do?
MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
he is bullshitting you.

 
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