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How to rid myself of Anxiety/guilt husband after year hiatus, starting new job?

So several months back I was in freak out mode because my husband was drinking a lot, had been fired from previous job of 10 years.. he wasn’t even looking for a job for about a year and just totally depressed... fast forward.. here we are.. he applied for a couple jobs and magically after a week secured a dream job.. funny how that works sometimes isn’t it?... he’s been taking care of the baby.. I’ve been working on my own business providing all of the income.. very untraditional roles.. well here we are now.. he started his new job today.. I’m at home with the baby and working (which is tough, she’ll be set to go to daycare in a week or so).. I’m having SO much anxiety today.. I miss him being here, and now looking back love that he was taking care of the baby while I worked..selfish I know.. but I can’t help the way I feel. I also feel guilt that he’s getting up so early to go to work.. while I (for once in my life, as this work from home thing is a recent development, another story) am able to sleep in until 9am.. roll out of bed and work in my PJs.. just anxiety all around.. anxiety also the little one will soon be going to daycare... I can’t shake the feelings and it’s really throwing me off today.. how do I ease this? Anyone been in similar boat? Did it get easier/better?
curiosi · 61-69, F
Things have a way of working themselves out. It is our interference that causes anxiety. Allow things to be.
Deep breath .. sounds like you have a plan .. think through a couple what ifs to have a bit of a back up plan in mind, maybe .. but try to just go along with the plan and see how things go instead of creating problems in your head
LookingForIt987 · 51-55, M
Not exactly the same boat (of course), but I think the anxiety you have over daycare, especially, is pretty normal for parents. (Not that all parents deal with it; just that a whole lot do.) Presumably, you and your husband did your research on the daycare and made the best decision possible with the information you had available. If so, then yes: it'll get easier once the routine settles into place.

Congrats to your husband on securing a dream job, and good luck to all of you! it'll be a period of adjustment, so remember to be kind to one another as you all adjust. And lastly, good luck to you on your business!
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
Unsettled by change. It's normal. Two big things are changing close to each other.

 
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