Is it wrong that I only want a (male) friend and not a boyfriend?

@Melpomene As I don´t know you besides your posts, I´ll refrain to comment about your claimed arrogance.
The most I can say is:
- The "self" thing about esteem is being widely used to name a meaningless empty cliché with a sad academic support.
- The real causal source of our image and value is on our interaction with the world outside our minds, other people and the "other" genre.
- Specially the one who means enough to be choosed amongst others.
- So love is is in the loved one and not mainly in the lover.
- You may FEEL you are enough for yourself. But ships are no more ships if the wáter gets vanished.
- Don´t lie to yourself and don´t steal the other one his needed source of validation. That´s not being "needy" (another nil concept) but just human.
- If he loves you and you don´t, make him a favor, walk away.
- He will heal from a broken heart but not while he is still being wounded by a fictional story.

@CharlieZ Uhm that's not exactly what I meant...It's more like [i]that[/i] is what guys tell me once I mention I'm not looking for a relationship

@Melpomene Sorry if I missunderstood, that´s quite different.
He is not respecting your choices.
And THAT is being arrogant.

You speak the truth I really don’t know I am lost @Melpomene

@Cannabro The first step is always to admit to yourself what you want and then see what are you going to do about it

@Melpomene thanks good advise

@SINAI Strict society. Here, they are still in the closet and leave once a year to take a walk.

@Melpomene You ask for too much.

@SINAI :'(