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Husband too depressed to look for job?

We had a baby a year ago. Her and I were constantly sick, like back to back for almost the entire year. It seems every week she had a new cold or stomach virus. I literally thought at one point I wasn’t going to be able to recover. Well my husband stayed home a lot to take care of us, and I did as well. As a result, he lost his job of 8 years as an attorney. I also left my job because of being passed over, I’ve since found work freelancing, and have scored a part time job also. He howveer, is not faring quite he same. He’s EXTREMELY depressed. He is very attached to the baby, and it seems loving being at home but he won’t put his resume together. I’ve dragged him to cafes ready to type it out and format it, but he breaks down crying when we get started. He’s certain he won’t find a job that’ll make him happy. He’s very very sad, mopey, like I said like pulling teeth to get him to just type his freaking resume and then we need to apply for jobs. I DO NOT know what to do. I’ve tried not putting pressure, I’ve tried PUTTING pressure. He won’t consider starting his own business, just a complete halt when it comes to finding a job or even trying to take the first step and put his resume together. I’m at a total loss. He’s crying a lot at night at like 2am, depressed. Our savings are dwindling, I admit them firing him from his job like 6 months ago was harsh and devastating but i didn’t expect him to take it this hard and not pick himself up by the bootstraps. We are too poor to go to counseling right now. Anyone been in this situation ? How did you figure it out ?/ motivate your significant other ?
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
He needs to get out of the house.
Even if all he's doing is going for a walk at least it's occupying his mind and allowing other things to enter his head.
Even if it's just fresh air and the occasional 'hello' to somebody he knows.

Losing your job is horrible. Especially if it was through something beyond your control.
You lose more than an income. You lose a slice of your identity.
He might benefit from a trip to the doctor. Just to give him the once over and if the doctor is savvy he might be able to refer him to a counsellor or at least point him in the right direction to somebody that might be able to give him a fresh perspective on life.
subhubby · 56-60, M
I would suggest he does see his general internist first. The depression could be very real and triggered by the loss of his job, stress of the baby, etc.

He also may no longer enjoy being a lawyer so looking at alternatives careers may be worth exploring. Have faith. God may guide him in the right direction but getting treated for the depression first I think is important.
tenente · 100+, M
geezus this guy is in need of serious help asap. see a doctor about depression and have his hormones checked out for low-T. after his insides are fixed can start working on the outside

 
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