How do you handle being left out, excluded ?
What do you do when you’re left out ?
Husband has a group of long long time friends (like 20 years) They keep inviting us to their huge parties and their huge houses (they all live in one area). For like birthday parties, baby stuff, to watch football, etc. My husband is really close to these people and I always go to the get togethers a and have a LOT of fun. Have been for like 4 years. I always leave thinking aw I want to hang out with these girls. (The wives of my husbands friends) Well my husband now gets together once a month with the guys to pay poker. Ive texted the wives a couple times before they all get together to ask if they are up to anything, maybe want to go out while the guys are hanging out and I keep either getting a hey! “I am so busy this weekend, we’ll all get together soon!” Or no response at all. THEN .. ughh..to add salt in the wound - the SAME day, I end up seeing them all together on Facebook getting together to play cards. All 10 of them, get together and play cards. I feel SO left out, and like I just was the only kid that didn’t get invited to the Birthday party. I just became a mom to a now awesome 1 year old, We are good giving, also successfull people just looking to have friends and I can’t wrap by brain around why 10 girls would get together and I not be invited - even after I’ve made attempts to reach out and make it clear I’m interested to hang out. It’s so upsetting. Anyone been through this? What was your experience and what do you think about it all now looking back ? The only thing I can think of is that maybe they are all 5-10 years older than me- but to me that shouldn’t be s big deal.
Husband has a group of long long time friends (like 20 years) They keep inviting us to their huge parties and their huge houses (they all live in one area). For like birthday parties, baby stuff, to watch football, etc. My husband is really close to these people and I always go to the get togethers a and have a LOT of fun. Have been for like 4 years. I always leave thinking aw I want to hang out with these girls. (The wives of my husbands friends) Well my husband now gets together once a month with the guys to pay poker. Ive texted the wives a couple times before they all get together to ask if they are up to anything, maybe want to go out while the guys are hanging out and I keep either getting a hey! “I am so busy this weekend, we’ll all get together soon!” Or no response at all. THEN .. ughh..to add salt in the wound - the SAME day, I end up seeing them all together on Facebook getting together to play cards. All 10 of them, get together and play cards. I feel SO left out, and like I just was the only kid that didn’t get invited to the Birthday party. I just became a mom to a now awesome 1 year old, We are good giving, also successfull people just looking to have friends and I can’t wrap by brain around why 10 girls would get together and I not be invited - even after I’ve made attempts to reach out and make it clear I’m interested to hang out. It’s so upsetting. Anyone been through this? What was your experience and what do you think about it all now looking back ? The only thing I can think of is that maybe they are all 5-10 years older than me- but to me that shouldn’t be s big deal.
36-40, F
