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Husband dresses baby in boy clothes only

Husband desperately wanted a boy. We had a beautiful girl about 8 months ago. I was okay at first, sorta laughing and what not when hed pick out little boy clothes. It seemed innocent at first. But now, we are 8 months in and ALL he buys are like "power rangers" and outfits with trucks, and dinosaurs and "daddys little dude" clothes for our little girl. I dont know what to do. Ive asked him to start buying girl clothes (which by the way when I say buy i mean pick out) I pretty much pay for everything... anyway.. What do I do? He just disregards what I have to say.. and buys it with our shared account.. when im not around (hes a stay at home dad right now)...Do I just let it keep happening? Do I just be patient and what till she can pick out her own clothes? or will this have any influence on her?
Steve42 · 56-60, M
And gender confusion is born.
Classified · M
This isn't good. Your husband needs to accept her as his daughter otherwise he'll damage her. This is unhealthy behaviour.
RemovedUsername634280 · 41-45, F
If he's still doing this when she's older it will be abuse of a sort. Plus she will know he never really wanted a girl. She will feel unloved.
kate21 · 26-30, F
If he’s trying to make her act like a boy long term, it’s wrong. It’s like he’s communicating his disappointment, which is unfair to you and your daughter.

If he just likes trucks, no big deal.

Not written in stone that a girl has to wear girl clothes, but eventually she will have a preference one way or the other.
SW-User
You get to dress her as you want too I'd guess, that's only fair. Of course he has an issue, psychological help would be great but I'm kinda guessing you wouldn't be able to get him to do that. being around someone with issues can give your child issues
SW-User
I dnt really think that he is doing it intentionally mayb u should give him chance if he still does that then u should make him realise tht evry gender is equal and remember no girl no world
Sry fr my bad english
malizz · 70-79, M
Suspect Mum always wanted a daughter. Grandad worried that she might make us girly.

Your hubby is in denial and needs counselled out of it.
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
I would put my foot down.Hes beong childish.In the future will confuse her as a toddler.Have a boy for him.
@Butterflykisses24 I agree. Take charge. Get some clothes for your darling.
Holla34 · 22-25, T
She may become a tomboy there’s nothing wrong with that I’m one
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
@Holla34 was your choice,this is being influcted upon.Its wrong.
SW-User
You have two children to raise
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
I don't know whether it will or won't....but seems to be setting the stage to draw unwanted attention to the baby and create confusion.
He sounds like he´s the one with gender assignment problems.
ViciDraco · 36-40, M
Get both until the kid is old enough to choose for herself

 
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