Why have you ghosted someone?

@ArtisticStatic That is why I avoid it. At least the soul crushing void of loneliness is constant, predictable and pretty much stable. Getting my hopes up slightly and then being shoved back down frustrates me more. Different strokes for different folks though.

@SW-User Not just here. In the real world as well. 😂

@Myzery oops 🤗

@Nadie I have always been the one being ghosted, not doing the ghosted. I can say, at least for me, I would appreciate the continued contact, rather than feeling like I caused some insult or whatever. Again, this is just me - But I don't forget about people I am talking to, so I just feel left out in the cold.

@SW-User I think that is a valid reason, honestly.

@SW-User I see. I understand your reason for ghosting also.

@SW-User oh they were selfish and self centered eh?

@SStarfish Yeah. I just sort of felt like I was being used and I didn’t want it to go any further.

@MorbidCynic I don't think it makes you heartless. However, I do think you should'nt guess at how another person views a situation. A passing conversation is one thing, but if we have been talking for a few days or whatever, then you suddenly vanish - I am going to wonder why. What did I say? Did I offend you? What happened? I thought we were getting along well, I thought we could be friends.

See what I mean? You can't know what the other party thinks or feels if you don't ask and are not open with them. In that scenario, you have walked away from a potential friend because you assumed the reality of the situation.

@ArtisticStatic well, I obviously left because I didn’t want anything to do with them. So I doubt losing a potential friend even matters at that point. Idk I had people ghost me and it never bothered me. I don’t see the point in caring about someone who obviously wasn’t meant to be in my life.

@MorbidCynic That's a different situation than what we were discussing. If you left because you didn't want to do anything do with them - Why not say "Hey, this isn't working. So I am going to go my own way." It's not much but is a decent and respectful thing to do. Assuming the didn't do something to not deserve that respect.

What I am about to say does not reflect on you, nor is it about you personally - This is my own personal opinion. I think ghosting without a reason, such as this person has been a creeper or was incredibly rude to a person - I think without a "valid" reason - Ghosting is cowardly. Every person should start at a point of very basic respect.

@BeefySenpie I mean, I can see that, I guess. I have been ghosted more times than people have talked to me, for sure, and even still I would not ghost someone intentionally. That's just me though. Me being treated that way makes me not want to treat other that way, not the other way around.

@ArtisticStatic it's not that... it's hard to explain.

@dumpstermeow No need to explain to me. I am just trying to understand the mentality behind ghosting, is all. It's not my intention to offend, and I apologize if I did.

@ArtisticStatic I think it's fear that motivates me honestly. It's not something the other person did. I don't know if that helps.

@Miram People are strange. I understand men as much as I do women. That is to say, I don't understand anyone at all. Ever.

@whateverhappens That's fair, but there had to be a reason to ghost, yes?

@ArtisticStatic yeah wasn't looking for anything and they seem to be

@whateverhappens This is why I think it is important to set boundaries and expectations early on when dealing with people.