Im going to share something personal.. and i would really appreciate honest opinons.

So, my dad hasnt been around much. Not becuase hes a bad person but because he works long hours to support the family. Ever since I was a kid hes always been away.. and weve been distant. I think we only talk like once a month and thats for me paying bills.. we live in the same house. I pretty much had to learn and grow up myself as my mom wasnt much help either. But now.. my dad is getting old and due to his tobacco habit hes started getting spots on his gums. The doctor is warning that if he doesnt quit things will get serious fast.. and hes not quitting.

I want to know how i can mend the relation..or should i even bother trying? I know he wasnt doing this on purpose but all my life i always felt like I disappointed him somehow. We dont have anything in common and talking to him about anything really is awkward and painful. If it wasnt for my mom I honestly would have no idea what hes been up to or how hes doing.