Would like opinions on something..

So my mom passed away about a month ago tomorrow...and the will has been brought up. I have issues with not Whats in the will given my mom solely made that this choice...but I heard two of my sisters were involved in her changing it a year ago...in selling my moms house and the split between 7 of us children. One gets 40% she stayed with my mom mind you I feel she took advantage of my mom from day one and could back that up...and the other has done a little bit for mom and gets 30% the rest obviously divided tween us...I so wanna just have some words with both of them. Other family didn't know about the change but these two. I am adopted so of course I do t know a thing so basically an outcast tho my mom told me she when n she passed what the house gets from selling the money is divided I guess I didn't really think much past that. But everyone else knows what's in the will but all us adopted kids...anyways that's nother part of the issue I have as well with dealing with this entire situation....my opinion matters Nothin!!! What are Ur opinions just even on the basis it was changed with those two daughters influence? Idk I don't let it get to me but if it's one time I even voice or well do a group text with family this would be the time and situation I o it. Lords knows the adopted oart of the family isn't Gonna have shit to do with us four children so I mean why not?? I guess there was more to this than the simple question...just kinda venting....doing it in A nutshell

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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

I am answering your question from my perspective as an adopted daughter who was often mistreated and bullied and who had some blood relatives of my adopted dad, people he didn't know well and some he'd never even met, lie to my father to get him to cut my inheritance way back; I got less than half of a normal inheritance. I was devastated.

However...although I greatly understand your feelings, and agree it looks like you're being treated unfairly (adoption seems to be a major factor in wills even if the adoptee was otherwise accepted by the family)...I think it unlikely you can or should do much about this. (Sigh). You might consider consulting an attorney just for your peace of mind but offhand it sounds like all the arrangements were made legally but secretly--in other words, the ethics were questionable but it was probably correct legally. Also, to resist this would almost certainly put you through more stress than you need in your life and might not be worth it. There is nothing wrong with getting a copy of the will and checking to see if it's all legal, but I have a feeling your best decision here will turn out to be letting it be and accepting one of the hardest things to accept, how unfair life, and families, can be.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

I'm sorry for your loss.
Wills are always troublesome in large families.
If you haven't seen it i guess you just have to trust that your mom knew what she was doing at the time she wrote it.
Any idea who the executors are ?

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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@michgirl75 Any idea when the will is to be read ?

michgirl75 · 46-50, F

@Picklebobble2 I don't have any clue yet

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@michgirl75 I guess you have to know what's in it before you can know whether it's worth contesting. If you think your mom may have been coerced into writing something she had no intention of writing you may have legal grounds to contest it.

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