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Love husband, but not attracted to him anymore

So, husband and I have been together for 6 years.. we just had a baby 4 months ago.. moved into a great house. I work a ton, he works Aton. We are both successful, good looking people. He’s smart, good looking, musically inclined, funny etc.. but I am starting to no longer feel attracted to him because of one thing. Lack.Of.Affection..I’m back to my old body post pregnancy , I make all the moves first, I’ve tried not making ANY moves to tease him, I don’t nag, I pay for at least half of everything, I try to flirt, dress up everyday etc.. he never makes a move on me, or shows me any sort of affection. In fact, he is quite mean sometimes in the way he talks to me.. I’ve called him out a few times so it’s not like this is a mystery.. but. It’s starting to get so bad this lack of affection thing, that on the rare occasion when we do do it, I’m no longer even turned on. I can’t get past all of the crazy stressful things we’ve been through, and like I said the fact that he can’t show any affection or desire towards me..I’m resentful of him. And he seems resentful of me. I don’t want to divorce him because truthfully before all this family stuff happened he was the absolute hands down, most amazing love of my life.. what do I do? Did anyone have this happen and it got better? What did you do?
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Ynotisay · M
Not knowing you or your husband but you pointed a few times about how much you work and the stress. Toss a child in to that and...

Again, not knowing you but maybe if you moved away from how you're feeling about this, and started thinking more about what he's going through, then you might find a bridge. Maybe he feels pressure to have sex because you're making it clear that you need that from him. Nothing wrong with a hug, just sitting close on the couch and letting him know how thankful you are for him and your family, you know?
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
Love this. Although he won’t even sit next to me when I try.. but maybe I could keep trying that..see if the softer approach helps him feel less on guard @Ynotisay
Ynotisay · M
@Brassm0nk3y Don't tell any of my fellow males that I told you this but a little ego stroke from a woman can make a HUGE difference in the way a guy sees himself and his partner. Just sayin'. Good luck.