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Love husband, but not attracted to him anymore

So, husband and I have been together for 6 years.. we just had a baby 4 months ago.. moved into a great house. I work a ton, he works Aton. We are both successful, good looking people. He’s smart, good looking, musically inclined, funny etc.. but I am starting to no longer feel attracted to him because of one thing. Lack.Of.Affection..I’m back to my old body post pregnancy , I make all the moves first, I’ve tried not making ANY moves to tease him, I don’t nag, I pay for at least half of everything, I try to flirt, dress up everyday etc.. he never makes a move on me, or shows me any sort of affection. In fact, he is quite mean sometimes in the way he talks to me.. I’ve called him out a few times so it’s not like this is a mystery.. but. It’s starting to get so bad this lack of affection thing, that on the rare occasion when we do do it, I’m no longer even turned on. I can’t get past all of the crazy stressful things we’ve been through, and like I said the fact that he can’t show any affection or desire towards me..I’m resentful of him. And he seems resentful of me. I don’t want to divorce him because truthfully before all this family stuff happened he was the absolute hands down, most amazing love of my life.. what do I do? Did anyone have this happen and it got better? What did you do?
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SW-User
He sounds exactly like my husband. He put 0 effort in for 16 years and then he cheated on me. Good times.
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
lol @SW-User somehow your answer made me feel better. I do worry he’s going to do that. That exact same situation also happened to my mom.. ugh.. were there any signs ?
SW-User
@Brassm0nk3y Yes. Caring way too much about his appearance, talking about the woman he was "friends" with, wad of cash in gym bag to pay for hotel undetected, picking at little things I'd do that never bothered him before, saying he was feeling a good. He used to be a real stable family man, good job etc. so this was out of character for him.