Anybody else’s in laws just invite themselves over without warning?

My in laws keep inviting themselves over. They’ll just call/text and be like “we are coming over tomorrow” not.. so what are y’all doing tomorrow? We should get together. A lot of times they tell JUST me so I feel so pressured to be the sweet daughter n law and say oh great! ... sometimes i try to be like “ oh i can’t, i have this and this going on) and they look at me with these angry eyes like I’m a totally monster.. We just had a baby 9 weeks ago so surprise visits are tough.. having to clean the house, entertain, wake up early after getting zero sleep from baby being up at night (they like coming over for breakfast.)
Truly.. they are super rude and stay forever.

How do i get them to learn boundaries, like asking us what we are doing vs first just inviting themselves over without looking like a total winch in their eyes? Should i just say that flat out? Lol

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Mamapolo2016 · F

The very first time I used marijuana...AFTER college...my husband’s college roommate came to visit us and brought grass. We made brownies. We ate one, nothing happened, and in the next half hour we each ate two more. Then it kicked in. We were outside in the rain having a ball playing with our St Bernard when my mother-in-law and two early teen sisters-in-law showed up unannounced. Tell me about it.

FurryFace · 61-69, M

@Mamapolo2016 lol its gotta be a true story for sure

Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

Paaha @Mamapolo2016 that is hilarious. Were you able to play it cool? Or could they tell!?

NightTimeWolf · M

@Mamapolo2016 I wonder what the St Bernard made of all this? lol

Mamapolo2016 · F

It was very interesting. I could not cope. I changed into dry clothes and lay down on the couch, pulling an Afghan over me and pretended to be sick. My husband was talking but his mother and sisters were very petite and had high-pitched voices. Lying there listening to them talk..like the song from Music Man ‘pick a little talk a little pick pick pick’ sung by the Chipmunks...I thought I would lose my mind.

Mamapolo2016 · F

It developed his Mom was already a pot head of long standing because she got migraines...but at the time I was positive the entire family would divorce me.

NightTimeWolf · M

I shouldn't laugh but this imagine is funny, however I wonder did it put you off repeating the experience?

Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

@Mamapolo2016 haha. Well at least you survived. That’s too funny. They sound like they may have been so chatty they didn’t even notice. Thanks for your example. Made me laugh/feel better

Mamapolo2016 · F

For quite a while. I sidn’t Use it much, I was a coward. I finally stopped altogether about five years later because I was visiting friends in Boston and I was driving when they fired up some really nice - and potent - grass. I certainly shouldn’t have been driving. We approached an overpass and it lit up: THE SPEED LIMIT IS 55 MPH AND YOU ARE TRAVELING 63 MPH.

I got terminal paranoia and had to pull off the road.

Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

@Mamapolo2016 that is SO scary wow. Good for you. Life is so precious ! So crazy how stuff can happen in the blink of an eye. :)

Mamapolo2016 · F

I was young and thought everybody, especially me, was immortal. They’re not. I would still use it if it was legal and I was stationary.

Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

@Mamapolo2016 I hear you. We are truly a lot more fragile than we think. Better enjoy life while you can ya know :)

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Brassm0nk3y Lord knows I am trying!