I feel awful
I just bought a giant bouquet for my boyfriend for Valentine's Day and I feel extremely foolish and... a bit sad. I'll get him other stuff, I just feel it's all inadequate.
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rckt148 · 61-69, M
I used to buy my wife a nice nighty ,she was very pretty ,so something pretty for my pretty ,and I always make a lobster supper
She liked the Lobster but she finally told me she seen the nighty as a gift for me .
So now I go with its the thought that counts
If I did anything for them ,that means I care and was thinking of them
If what I do does not make her happy ,then thats her damn problem
Its a day to show I love her and she is special ,,not a lets see how much money I can spend contest ,,,
I killed myself with a bad back trying to give my wives the best I could give them ,,,that requires lots of work .
After I was left ,,she tells my friends she did not want all the stuff ,she wanted me ,the man she married ,"She was lonely ,I was always working "
All she had to do was say that ,I could have fixed that problem
There are way to many games in relationships that make them hard .
Valentines day is a man made day ,,but one set aside to say "I Love You "
If you did /do that ,,then sweating how others do it ,,thats just BS
A dollar store ,$1.00 box of chocolates and a hand written love note would make me happy ,and I'll cook her a huge lobster and all that goes with it and flowers and box of chocolates ,,and Zales and their diamond commercials can kiss my rear
Its to say "I Love You !!!" ,,not that I just put us in debt to prove it .
I did take my last woman out for a 24 oz steak for 2 shaped like a heart ,candle lit table ,red velvet cake ,and she had a few drinks (I don't drink )
And she still says that was the best VDay ,so who knows ,I actually hate the tradition ,the Zales commercials do make me feel like a cheap skate LOL
Special days should never make you sad ,that defeats the purpose
She liked the Lobster but she finally told me she seen the nighty as a gift for me .
So now I go with its the thought that counts
If I did anything for them ,that means I care and was thinking of them
If what I do does not make her happy ,then thats her damn problem
Its a day to show I love her and she is special ,,not a lets see how much money I can spend contest ,,,
I killed myself with a bad back trying to give my wives the best I could give them ,,,that requires lots of work .
After I was left ,,she tells my friends she did not want all the stuff ,she wanted me ,the man she married ,"She was lonely ,I was always working "
All she had to do was say that ,I could have fixed that problem
There are way to many games in relationships that make them hard .
Valentines day is a man made day ,,but one set aside to say "I Love You "
If you did /do that ,,then sweating how others do it ,,thats just BS
A dollar store ,$1.00 box of chocolates and a hand written love note would make me happy ,and I'll cook her a huge lobster and all that goes with it and flowers and box of chocolates ,,and Zales and their diamond commercials can kiss my rear
Its to say "I Love You !!!" ,,not that I just put us in debt to prove it .
I did take my last woman out for a 24 oz steak for 2 shaped like a heart ,candle lit table ,red velvet cake ,and she had a few drinks (I don't drink )
And she still says that was the best VDay ,so who knows ,I actually hate the tradition ,the Zales commercials do make me feel like a cheap skate LOL
Special days should never make you sad ,that defeats the purpose
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@rckt148 Its not about the money spent. My favorite Valentine's Day was with him last year, all we did was take a bath together and drink cheap wine out of mugs. It's that I can't think of anything to get him.
rckt148 · 61-69, M
Well they say its not suppose to be about the money
but in all the years I have gave in to celebrating the tradition
I have only had a few that didn't leave me wishing I had just skipped the day
But the point was ,if you have done something that says I Love you
Then that should be sufficient
Just in my experiences ,it never is
It could be the women i pick too
Lots of other women have said they would love to have a man do what I do
but usually its women who talk crap when your married
I think often it had been my wifes friends that say crap too
Like the nighty was for me
My second wife loved when I bought her sexy things when we first got married
it was not until after the 6th year of marriage that she started with all the lonely business and making remarks about things I bought her
I can only assume you have not been married that long ?
I usually do real well the first 6 or 7 years ,then it goes south ,,
but Good Luck to you
Hope it is a killer day for you ,and him too
but in all the years I have gave in to celebrating the tradition
I have only had a few that didn't leave me wishing I had just skipped the day
But the point was ,if you have done something that says I Love you
Then that should be sufficient
Just in my experiences ,it never is
It could be the women i pick too
Lots of other women have said they would love to have a man do what I do
but usually its women who talk crap when your married
I think often it had been my wifes friends that say crap too
Like the nighty was for me
My second wife loved when I bought her sexy things when we first got married
it was not until after the 6th year of marriage that she started with all the lonely business and making remarks about things I bought her
I can only assume you have not been married that long ?
I usually do real well the first 6 or 7 years ,then it goes south ,,
but Good Luck to you
Hope it is a killer day for you ,and him too
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
Okay... STOP!! Guys are wired up differently. Cook him his favorite dinner. Take him to a Him style movie.. Put him in front of the TV with the remote and a six pack if that's his style.. The point is make it "Him time" Not the kind of present you would want to get . Think it through..
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@whowasthatmaskedman I hate when he gets me flowers. I don't know how to cook, he does all the cooking and he doesn't drink. I guess he's not a stupid stereotype. He's gonna love these 'cause they're purple and yellow, like the Vikings colors. He's never received flowers on Valentine's Day, so he doesn't know if he'd like that or not. I'll binge watch Star Wars with him, get him peanut butter ice cream and give him a blow job or whatever. That just doesn't feel like enough.
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
[c=#7700B2]a tad early for valentines but the thought is what matters, I'm sure he will love them. hopefully they last that long though lol[/c]
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@PlumBerries I'll forgot about Valentine's Day if I don't do it while it's on my mind.
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
Graciebaby · F
Your 12 days early, the blooms will be pushing up daisies by the 14th.
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@Graciebaby I'll forget about it if I don't do it this early. Idk why
Graciebaby · F
Lol
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Why does it feel inadequate?
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@SW-User idk. We're fighting a lot at the moment.
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@SW-User Oh. I'm sorry 🤗
JarJarBoom · 41-45, F
You bought them.way too early
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@JarJarBoom they're scheduled to arrive on Valentine's Day.
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Isn't he happy about it?
[c=#BF0080] I think its VERY sweet! 😊💕[/c]