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SW-User
If only sexual activity was like porn movies. The woman is 100% into it, everyone has confidence and it's a perfect encounter.
It's not. It's a dance of physical activity, innuendo, and barely noticeable cues.
"No," "We shouldn't do this," or "stop" or any other cue should be a ball buster. It means activity stops until you get things sorted out.
It's not. It's a dance of physical activity, innuendo, and barely noticeable cues.
"No," "We shouldn't do this," or "stop" or any other cue should be a ball buster. It means activity stops until you get things sorted out.
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SW-User
@SW-User That was not your fault , she should have said stop ...
CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M
@DarlingSelah you're such a flirt.
SW-User
Dayum ...harsh @DarlingSelah
CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M
I think it's a shame that this story is part of a media conversation about sexual assault and sexual harassment because it isn't either of those things.
This separate conversation is still worth having but it can't be compared to rapists like Weinstein. It's about men feeling that we have to be the ones to push sex because women are attractive and men are not, so if we don't ask for sex and push boundaries then it won't happen.
This separate conversation is still worth having but it can't be compared to rapists like Weinstein. It's about men feeling that we have to be the ones to push sex because women are attractive and men are not, so if we don't ask for sex and push boundaries then it won't happen.
SW-User
@CheshireCatalyst @CheshireCatalyst I would not compare this to Harvey Weinstein but ,yes it is still important to discuss ...it is important to have an understanding of these things
CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M
@SW-User that's how almost all the men I know have been taught to think about sex. We have to convince women that it's a good idea because otherwise they won't see the appeal of it, and even at times maybe they won't want it but afterwards they'll be glad that it happened because it was great.
... Like I said before I don't think it's a good thing, and I try not to let that feeling dictate my behaviour, but that's the way I've been instructed by TV, movies, books, songs, school.
... Like I said before I don't think it's a good thing, and I try not to let that feeling dictate my behaviour, but that's the way I've been instructed by TV, movies, books, songs, school.
SW-User
@CheshireCatalyst commuincation is very important on both sides ...men and woman need to have this conversation so that both know where each other stands in those circumstances,that way there is no confusion ....in other words no means no ...but also women and men need to stop playing games and be upfront with their real intentions ....
SW-User
Ok, so ...if his date said no and he persisted ,then thats non consensual, otherwise ....
SW-User
@SheCallsMeCrushDaddy if you say no and someone keeps persisting thats harassment, but why did she go along with it if she was that uncomfortable? Did she feel threatened in some way ? I'm curious .
UndeadPrivateer · 31-35, M
SW-User
@UndeadPrivateer It would seem that way
