Pregnant. Husband said his life is going to suck for the next 18 years So husband and I were...

Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F Best Comment

That's a really stupid thing to say to the mother of his child

GwydionFrost · 56-60, M

Yeah, you should. At the bare minimum, have the jerk read THIS:

https://similarworlds.com/7093008-I-Am-a-Father/572334-Why-Is-It-So-Important-For-A-Father-To-Be-In-His-D

Starz93 · F

Should I be honest? He is such a jerk for say that! Instead of being supportive and telling you nice words he says that !!! Disgusting.

SweetMae · 70-79, F

That would hurt my feelings. You might want to ask why he said that. Maybe he is concerned about being a good father.

SW-User

Oh dear you're going to have two children :(
Maybe a gentle heart to heart is needed

Pherick · 41-45, M

Thats a pretty shitty thing to say. I can see him saying in a joking manner and not realizing how it would come across, but still kind of shitty.

Rambler · M

He's being a jerk, but forgive him. He's probably having cold feet about the responsibility he's taking on... he'll get a handle on it hopefully.

sogdianrock · 61-69, M

hi Brassm0nk3y
Sure being as it is not true although it could go that way. He needs to get his head straight like Cool Hand Luke!
Kids are great and your own even more so! Maybe his own childhood was problematic and he is fearful of repeating his own experience. If so that is wise also. Good book for you The Female Brain by Louanne Brizendene. She a Dr. Very good book. Good boy for him The Male Brain by Louanne also. After swop books and discuss them
Enjoy your next 18 years!
Best wishes
:)

“The changes that happen in the mommy brain are the most profound and permanent of a woman’s life. For as long as her child is living under her roof, her GPS system of brain circuits will be dedicated to tracking that beloved child. Long after the grown baby leaves the nest, the tracking device continues to work. Perhaps this is why so many mothers experience intense grief and panic when they lose day-to-day contact with the person their brain tells them is an extension of their own reality.”
― Louann Brizendine, The Female Brain

SW-User

Yeah, I'd say something. It's supposed to be a scary, but yet exciting moment. Since you're already married, I assume it wasn't a complete accident, so he should not be so negative.

Bluesky53 · 61-69, M

well not having kids myself but close a couple of times,,,,,there's a mixture of emotions going on,cant fault him for that,,,,,,he'll come around at due time,I've been there,

Byron8by7 · M

I hope, for your sake and for the sake of your child, that he was kidding. If he wasn't kidding, he needs a serious straightening out. Say whatever you need to say.

Salix75 · 46-50, F

hopefully he was just making a (bad) joke.
If not, that's a particularly dumb-ass thing to say. Did he forget he had a role in bringing about this pregnancy?