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What if you want to. start over but the person is angry over the past???

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SW-User
@Sniper 馃槬 Thats why i didnt say will change nothing and make me look stupid and desperate, walk all over me then
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swirlie31-35, F
@Sniper

You have made your point with me, Sniper. I fully understand what you are driving at, regarding pay-to-play situations with a pro. I have girlfriends who are upwardly mobile career girls who hire 'males' for the same reason you have explained. For my corporate ladder-climbing career girlfriends, there is way too much at stake (according to them), to become embroiled in a relationship with some guy who does not bring an equal value to the table.

For those girls, as long as they are engaged in the corporate life, they will continue to 'expense out' their pay-to-play romantic adventures each month and believe it or not, they are permitted to claim it each month. Therefore, I fully understand the legal, financial as well as emotional side of what you have experienced with your ex-friend.

But here is my point: Forgiveness will not have any effect on HER. When you forgive, you are strictly forgiving yourself. It is your own mental health and emotional well-being that I am addressing here, not her's. Your forgiveness only effects YOU.

Here is a key point with forgiveness toward anything: When we forgive someone, we actually stop talking about them or the situation from that point onward. We cannot even hardly recall that old situation or circumstance. If someone else reminds us of an old relationship we had, we have to think long and hard to recall the specific details of that past event IF we have previously forgiven it.

Forgiveness means, 'erasing' from your mind so that YOU can live in peace. Right now, you are NOT living in peace.
robbie249961-69, F
Until the person lets go of the past, its never going to work. Hanging on to past is so mentally not healthy; nothing good will come from a person dwelling.
labsrockM
The anger will have to worked through before anything worth while can come of it
swirlie31-35, F
Then you are not starting over. You are resuming where you left off in the past.

 
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