Should I message a girl I met? I met someone at a book club meeting last night and got on with...

Burnley123 · 41-45, M

I messaged her on the group. I'll let you know if she responds. If not I won't bother. ;-)

SmartKat · 56-60, F

Lucky you! I never meet any interesting men by going to activities - in spite of the fact that I've been told this is a good way to meet men.

firefall · 61-69, M

Never die wondering! Yes, send her a gentle inquiry. It won't come off as creepy so long as you're not too pushy with it.
Innit
:)

CaptainCanadia · 41-45, M

Let's see, using the universal creepy formula of half your age plus seven...

So if you were 36, it would be creepy for you to date anyone who is younger than 25 years old. At ten years younger, that's fine.

Just say "Hey it was great meeting you. Would you like to get coffee?"

rottenrobi · 56-60, F

Definitely write to her. What have you got to lose?

Burnley123 · 41-45, M

Thanks for the advice boys. I bet you were all like; "wtf he's not talking about politics and he has a human side". 😝

SheCallsMeCrushDaddy · M

sure...... whats the worst thing that could happen, she could say no, you will get over it. but, if she says yes, then you'll be glad you did.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

Yes.
Just send her a note saying how much you enjoyed your conversation and look forward to the next one.

Cierzo · M

Contacting her that way sounds like a good idea. Good luck. Hope she does not tell you how much she supports Theresa May and Brexit 😉

Stark

I would wait and see how the next meeting go and maybe ask her in person. It's all up to you though I don't see a problem with either option messaging her or waiting.

Vivaci

Yeah, be friends with her through FB first. And just send her a msg saying hi! And please wait till the next meeting to take her out for a cup of coffee...☺

GlassDog · 41-45, M

Personally, I'd wait to see her at the next meeting. While women don't like men to faff around too long before asking, she'd probably be more receptive if you've just had a good, interesting chat, rather than to a message out of the blue. I know it's more pressure to ask in person, but she'd probably appreciate that too.

SmartKat · 56-60, F

Is there an update?