Since when does wanting to make your partner happy, a bad thing?

Making someone else happy is a wonderful thing. I would be willing to bet that he isn't really mad that you try to make him happy. I think he is most likely dealing with feelings of guilt because he feels like you are always doing things he likes, eating the foods he likes, watching the shows he likes, etc. He wants to make you happy too but likely feels that he can't because he feels like you aren't being honest with him about what you like or don't or what you want.

We as guys really want to know what you women want and how to please you.

This actually sounds like a very healthy argument and it tells me that you have the foundations of a strong relationship. You are both looking out for each other's interests.

Let me make his point for him, but using your own framework to understand it. What he is saying in an implicit way is that you will make him happier if he sees you working on ways to raise your own happiness on your own. I don't think you have to necessarily be successful at that either. I think he wants to just see you make the effort.

I won't speculate on his motives, but from your point of view you can motivate yourself by knowing that the effort you put into that he will see and it will improve his satisfaction with the relationship. I realize it might be out of your comfort zone and what you do from habit. This is a great topic for a therapy session as well.

Every once in a while pause and allow him to make you happy. Maybe he wants to do that. Maybe he wants to give too, and not receive most of the time.

Give him some space. That's all he is asking.😂

it is not a bad thing :) I think he wants the same for you.. he wants you to be happier and that makes him happy... he prioritizes you over himself, be happy :)

The problem is you are turning yourself into a slave. It's not pleasant feeling like a slave master.

If he is that confuse. Then show him the door

not all guys feel this way