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Is a spouse morally obligated to accept children born outside his or her marriage due to his or her partner's infidelity?

If the aggrieved partner cannot accept the child as their own, they should dissolve the relationship.

Whether they choose to do so or not is solely up to them, but the child is the real innocent and deserves no ill effects from their birth.
@Mamapolo2016 I do agree with that. The child certainly doesn’t deserve any resentment from the partner who was cheated on; it didn’t ask to be conceived or born. I was amused that the question was asked on the basis of [b]morality[/b]. Cheating was the immoral thing to do.
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You’re not obligated to do anything, however if you forgive and accept your partner then you can’t hold it against an innocent child. If their parent continues to be part of your life, then you would have to accept that they come with a child
RubySoo · 56-60, F
If a spouse has an affair tgat results with a child being born, i guess that would be a very hard thing to accept. As someone else said, the parent may well have to pay maintenence firvthe illegitimate child which could impact the upbringing of the children from the marriage. I cant imagine the upset that would cause to all involved..

[On saying all that, i do know a couple this happened to. The guy fathered a child with another woman, yet only months earlier, he and his wife chose to abort a child because they 'werent ready'. He has been fully involved in his sons life, and the wife has been too. They never did have a child together, although the wife always hoped they would, it just never happened for them. ]
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
No, quite the opposite. If the spouse cheated then he/she did wrong and that shouldn't be overlooked. It's then entirely up to the wronged party to evaluate his/her marriage to see whether it's worth keeping AND/or to decide to what extent, if any they wish to accept the illegitimate children of their spouse.
Morally obligated - no. You are morally obligated not to kill the cheating spouse. Divorce is definitely an option. Or even possibly the idea of an 'open' marriage. It can be a sticky wicket if not divorcing, and the cheating spouse is active in the child's life. The tangled web some people weave....
walabby · 61-69, M
No, but if generously minded, it is possible...?
Melpomene · 22-25, F
No, unless they knew about the child(ren) and still decided to marry their partner.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Morally? LOL. Yeah. He can go and start a second family with the baby mama.
AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M
Infidelity nulls and voids any marriage
My stance as well. Trust is everything.@AthrillatheHunt
SW-User
Not morally but heartfully if they so choose
The kid didn't do anything wrong.
SubstantialKick · 31-35, M
Are you referring to adoption?
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
Helllz no! Byyyyye!
“Morally” ? How ? But believe it not, legally is possible—wives’ bank accounts have been garnished for the child support their husbands owe for children born after infidelity. In some states all marital assets are fair game when one partner owes a debt.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
Not morally obligated. Forgiving cheating is hard enough without adding a child in. If you can’t accept the child then you should split because the child doesn’t deserve to suffer for this.

 
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