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Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
Because they aren't interested?
Because if they didn't some men might mistake that as an invite for sex?
Because of stereotypes and myths?
Because men love to chase and once they have caught they can lose interest - the thrill of the chase and all that?
Because they aren't playing hard to get but some men prefer to believe they are?
Because they want to be sure the guy is really interested?
In short - a million different reasons.. but lets now assume things about women in general eh?
Because if they didn't some men might mistake that as an invite for sex?
Because of stereotypes and myths?
Because men love to chase and once they have caught they can lose interest - the thrill of the chase and all that?
Because they aren't playing hard to get but some men prefer to believe they are?
Because they want to be sure the guy is really interested?
In short - a million different reasons.. but lets now assume things about women in general eh?
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Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@SynysterIt's a really quiet night on here, so lucky for you I have time to reply! Interesting to see how almost totally braindead people think.. thanks for the insight!
Interesting you make assumptions about people's marital status even though on here we don't display that.. either you have a crystal ball or you are just a complete tosser! I think it's the latter!
Interesting too how you felt the need to defend yourself on how many books you have read.. what, we are talking three books are we? And you believed each one as gospel right? Hilarious! Have you heard of irony?
Interesting you make assumptions about people's marital status even though on here we don't display that.. either you have a crystal ball or you are just a complete tosser! I think it's the latter!
Interesting too how you felt the need to defend yourself on how many books you have read.. what, we are talking three books are we? And you believed each one as gospel right? Hilarious! Have you heard of irony?
Synyster · 51-55, M
@Adaydreambeliever Well, my relationship is none of anyone's business. I don't need to display anything, because I don't answer to anyone. period. I never said married, I said single. Good lord woman, stop making up shit.
I'm pretty sure my assumptions are right. Now you have a wonderful evening.
I'm pretty sure my assumptions are right. Now you have a wonderful evening.
There must be some mistake.
Playing hard to get is now a strategy of the distant past. It was common in my mother's day; she was born in 1921. Right up until about the 1960's, it was normal for the majority of men to have a double standard; they assumed that all women were either morally good or bad, with nothing in between. If a woman said no, it meant she was good - very discriminating about who she said yes to, accepting only a man who was a serious prospect for future marriage. If a woman said yes, it automatically meant she was a tart and therefore loose or bad, someone to use but not treat seriously or with respect. This put women in an invidious position; they were obliged to play hard-to-get in order to be treated with respect.
This attitude no longer applies.
Now the law is that if a woman says no she means no.
A woman is very foolish if she plays games with her yeses and nos, and it is my belief that to do so would now be extremely rare. If a man shows signs of having double standards, most women will want nothing to do with him. If he tries to fake being egalitarian, she will soon find him out and drop him like a live coal.
Playing hard to get is now a strategy of the distant past. It was common in my mother's day; she was born in 1921. Right up until about the 1960's, it was normal for the majority of men to have a double standard; they assumed that all women were either morally good or bad, with nothing in between. If a woman said no, it meant she was good - very discriminating about who she said yes to, accepting only a man who was a serious prospect for future marriage. If a woman said yes, it automatically meant she was a tart and therefore loose or bad, someone to use but not treat seriously or with respect. This put women in an invidious position; they were obliged to play hard-to-get in order to be treated with respect.
This attitude no longer applies.
Now the law is that if a woman says no she means no.
A woman is very foolish if she plays games with her yeses and nos, and it is my belief that to do so would now be extremely rare. If a man shows signs of having double standards, most women will want nothing to do with him. If he tries to fake being egalitarian, she will soon find him out and drop him like a live coal.
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@cupidnpsyche By definition, 50% of the population is under the average 100 IQ mark - therefore at least half the population of both boys and girls, women and men, are dumb.
As for the building traction and heat - I don't think any young male needs that. They already have such an overabundance of libido that it causes them nearly constant pain and stress.
Girls do need wooing to build their desire and readiness - but that is [i]not[/i] the same thing as playing hard to get. Young boys are too dumb, inexperienced and immature to know what girls need - so such a strategy wouldn't work anyway. If the girl says no, and they are nice boys (because they accept no for an answer), they don't stick around to get to know her; they go elsewhere and ask the next girl, and the next and the next until they strike "lucky" - their luck, not a girl's.
Things are no longer the way they were in 1950's Hollywood films.
As for the building traction and heat - I don't think any young male needs that. They already have such an overabundance of libido that it causes them nearly constant pain and stress.
Girls do need wooing to build their desire and readiness - but that is [i]not[/i] the same thing as playing hard to get. Young boys are too dumb, inexperienced and immature to know what girls need - so such a strategy wouldn't work anyway. If the girl says no, and they are nice boys (because they accept no for an answer), they don't stick around to get to know her; they go elsewhere and ask the next girl, and the next and the next until they strike "lucky" - their luck, not a girl's.
Things are no longer the way they were in 1950's Hollywood films.
FreeSpirit1 · 51-55, F
TJNewton · M
@FreeSpirit1 I knew it was that
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@Incognitochick Trying to holla at me
I don't want no scrubs
A scrub is a guy that can't get no love from me
I don't want no scrubs
A scrub is a guy that can't get no love from me
thepreposterouspanda · 31-35, M
@Incognitochick It's one of those songs I saw the video for on MTV2 all those years ago, and the chorus drifts in and out of my head from time to time hahaha.
Incognitochick · 41-45, F
@thepreposterouspanda in Ireland they brought out a “no pigeons” version for a mans POV. Was hilarious
HairbrushDiva · 31-35, F
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assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
TJNewton · M
@assemblingaknob Does that mean yes means left ?
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Assuming they are playing, my guess would be that it is a dance that is being partaken of, it is beautiful to see from a distance, like a hermit, monk, scientist, philosopher, or poet.
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@TJNewton The grande dance of the lilies for example, and the play of light upon their soft petals. Or the dance of sociality, of weaving in and out of scenarios, leaving a scent behind, bringing smiles and desires to the surface. You know.
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
@MrBrownstone i know 😦
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Could be lots of reasons. It's games no matter how ya look at it. A confident woman who knows what she likes doesn't play such childish games.
TJNewton · M
@SW-User Can you be more pacific ?
Incognitochick · 41-45, F
Some times we love the chase too. Although it would be easier if guys got the fuck off im not interested obvious signs too.
TJNewton · M
HopelessGuy · M
Most Men assume bad things if they don't.
Magenta · F
I can't speak for anyone but myself and I never have.
Nomad7 · 22-25, M
I don't get it. If you're ugly, you're already hard to want. It doesn't work for them
MURD3RM0NK3Y · 26-30, M
I like it better that way.
Tres13 · 51-55, M
homos
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TJNewton · M
I think maybe it's down to mood swings
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TJNewton · M
@Phoenixbellefire Goodnight
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