The biggest most stressful thing in my life right now is my boyfriend's 11 year old son 😭

@Spoiledbrat It's a very tricky situation, and she is in a position where her stepson could accuse her of things that would get her arrested.

😳 oh

Im sorry to hear that. @Mamapolo2016

@Spoiledbrat I didn't get arrested, the boys were bigger than I was. We were way past the point where spanking would have been effective anyway.

But it can and does happen.

@MrPerditus1 his mother gave his to his father the day he was born . She tried to have a miscarriage a couple time my boyfriend told me and as soon as he was born she left the hospital. Otherwise he's only seen her a handful of times for an hour or so. H hasn't seen her for a couple years now he forgot her name one time . I know it's hard for his cus she has other kids the two youngest she has still the others she doesn't . And the only other girls his dad has dated or married in one case where mean to him.

I just feel like I have explained to him plenty of times and have tried to have heart to hearts with him but he just chooses to be a menace.

@MrPerditus1 his dad's ex wife was a bitch I guess .

@Stray4life She sounds like it. The best I can say is talk to your bf about all this, again if you already have. He really has to take charge and not let his son walk all over you or treat you badly in any way. It's hard being a parent. I remember many times I was the bad guy, I can't count how many times I was told by my son he hated me and so on. But I did what needed to be done and though we are thousands of miles apart, we have a great relationship in his adulthood.

Thank you for putting some clarification to this. I not only think your bf needs to step up and lay down some law, but that slowly the two of you can talk to his son, try to show him you're not like the others and that you want to treat him well. With all that boy has gone through and has seen, it's no wonder he acts that way, but still he should not be allowed to continue.

Not sure about this option, but if there is a way to get him to talk to a professional, it could really help. Just talking to a child therapist can work out things that you and your bf may not know or understand. When you're close to a situation you don't always see all that can be going on where someone outside can and is trained to help guide the child to a better place inside as well as with others. It's good if the parent can sit in sometimes as well. Usually happens later on though. Just some ideas I thought I'd share. But no matter what happens, the dad really needs to take charge, be there for him and place rules that are reinforced to help lend some stability to his sons life.

Again, I only know so much so forgive me if I have said anything that has been or is being done. I don't mean to criticize or put down anything you or your bf have or might be doing. I hope things work out for the best for all of you.

@JaneDoeEyes my boyfriend is perfect his supportive and carrying. It's amazing his son is nothing like him . He must get the shitty behavior from his mother

@Stray4life I on't know you, but if the child hears negativity about his mother it might be one reason he's acting the way he does with you.

Whether or not the mother is a good r bad mother she still is his mother and he may feel he needs to defend her if he hears anything bad.

@ihurtmychin It is easy to say "go and leave" doing is very difficult +other problems as well one need to face!

I’d fix this but peope keep hearting it 🤷🏻‍♂️@User41

@Spoiledbrat I'm pretty sure it's mostly his dad not taking the time out of his dad to spend time with him . I've told his dad that plenty of times but he doesn't like spending time with it seems because Everytime they try to have boys time he does something that gets them into a fight .

@SimplyTracie they always are my priority. I mostly feel like they have been picking up on his bad behavior and now I have to correct it at the same time they are seeing his behavior is not being corrected.
My kid's father is not in the picture right now . My girls are my boyfriend are close he cares for them like they are his own and I think his son is jealous of them and me when he doesn't have all his dad's attention.

@SW-User we have talked a lot he just wants to be a jerk and wants it to be just him and his dad . Ik he's only 11 and kids his age are kinda selfish but it's really like he doesn't care about his dad's happiness

@Stray4life my son is 12. Please bare in mind he is most likely going through a lot of changes ,not just with this living situation but physiologically too. He probably does care but he may not be able to articulate it properly . Many kids ,especially boys have a harder time with this . Just something to keep in mind .

He has been to a mental hospital for kids before and was on lots of meds when I met them since he has been living with me he has been a better then he was and doesn't take meds anymore . He used to have sleeping problems and night terrors and doesn't have them anymore . Now he's just an ass hole .

@Stray4life You need help. Please get help to find out what’s hurting him that he’s acting out like this. Only then can you help him.

Giving him a party and gifts may not be helpful. Is there someone close to him?

@Stray4life Seems like he needs therapy and maybe meds again, but his dad needs to be more active in his life. It's not fair to you or your children to be the only one responsible for doing everything

Without his dad being involved I don't see anything positive happening