Ladies of SW...if your man was to "hit" u would u leave him ? 🤔✨
Or would u stay. Think about that now. What if your husband, boyfriend, or lover was to punch you in the face right now, would you stay with him. Or would you leave. Men can answer too. I would probably say this is it. I'm not gonna do this. Noone is worth being abused by or for Comments. 🤔
@SW-User Have heard several women here in Oklahoma say that’s what their grandmothers did except they didn’t leave. They put the fear in them & they straightened up & took care of their family & knocked that crap off.
Yes, and I did exactly that. I ended a 20 year abusive marriage the moment he harmed me physically. He had smashed a hardcover book into my face and bloodied and broke my nose. I looked at him and told him to pack his things and leave or I would call the police. He left without fanfare and I later filed for divorce.
He had been emotionally and verbally abusive for years before that happened and I lacked the conviction to end things. The physical assault gave me complete clarity.
@Zonuss In a weird way, it is the best thing that ever happened to me since I knew I was hanging in there with a man that sucked the life out of me. I was so chronically depressed being with him.
Fast forward to the man I am married to today and I can only say that there are really good men out there. I feel very lucky to have another chance at life with someone I love.
@Zonuss It was awful and I really didn't have much support from my family either who often witnessed him chucking objects at me when he got frustrated. It took me years later to realized how wrong [i]that[/i] was and how dysfunctional [i]they[/i] were. It was no wonder I had so little in me to know a good man from one that was not so good.
I truly feel sorry for those that hang in there until one or the other passes on. I cannot imagine growing old with such an existence. 🥺
I have made it 54 years as a biker, brawler and drinker, without ever having a good reason to hit a woman. If I can do it, it shouldn't be a problem for any other man.
Honestly being a child and physically abused and my mother beat up on every other day I wouldn’t put up with it. I would wind up killing him if he ever touched me. Probably slit his throat in his sleep or something. You have to be a bully and a lowlife to hit on somebody and especially kids.
If he were to hit me with his full might , as big and strong as he is ... that would be all she wrote . I couldn’t survive that . But he would walk through fire to save me ... so I know that would never happen .
Toss him out.When I was 18 my 25 year old ex tried to slap me as we were splitting up.What an idiot.He knew I had a karate black belt.I stopped him and my retaliation was brutal.I beat him to a pulp.Punches,kicks,scratching and throwing him like a rag doll.When my parents saw what was happening I had him in a throat lift.They managed to rescue him,just,and the ex had to go to ER.
We've been married for more than 40 years--so maybe I'd get him checked out to find out if he had a brain tumor or some other medical excuse. If there was no medical explanation, then I'd leave him!
@Zonuss Well bearing in mind there could be a million and one different permutations and reasons.. but say for instance, the man were hadn't seen you coming and you startled him and he thought he was being attacked? Or say he was going through an unusually stressful time and the behaviour were totally out of character, he'd never done anything like it before. It might make a difference too what he does afterwards, perhaps seeks counselling, meds etc.. In those circumstances I would forgive. I wouldn't assume.
@Zonuss Then that's an entirely different matter.. someone who is habitually violent or aggressive would not be someone who deserves chances.. They would have done this before.. and will do it again
@Zonuss I saw an older lady in Walmart, she never smiled when she came in, always dressed really dowdy in one old t-shirt & slacks. After a few months working at the store she came in with a black eye. Then gradually noticed she was changing her hair getting it styled, wearing new clothes, smiling etc. Believe she left that SOB in a heartbeat & it was the probably the best thing she ever did. She probably got help from the women’s shelter & other resources here. Seemed like she had been emotionally & financially abused for a good long while & when he blackened her eye that was evidence & enough to motivate her to get out.
