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Can you fall in love to someone you haven't meet in real life?

Have you got any experience meeting someone online and fall in love?
SW-User
I believe that you can love the idea of someone, but that you don't know the reality until you've spent significant time in their physical company. So it cannot likely be love based on true and complete knowledge.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
@SW-User Exactly. In the real world they may not be anything they portray here. They could be bankrupt, serial cheaters, have STD’s, be a terrible parent or have a really bad temper aside from bad breath and hygiene habits and being a hoarder.
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
People have fallen in love without physically meeting the other for many years. It happened a lot in the '40's during the war just from writing each other using snail mail. So yes, I think it's possible to fall in love that way.

I've let my guard down more than once online and sadly, one lied, one ghosted and well, some just weren't able to hang in there for one reason or another and I'm sure I was probably to blame for my share of them not doing well.

I've never got to meet any of those that I let get close or let me get close, but some were planned till things didn't work out. Any way you look at it, IF the person you are talking with is honest, up front and connects, I don't see why it can't work.

I have two couples I game with online. Each couple came together from playing online games, fell in love and married. One is celebrating their 17th anniversary and the other will be 14 years. So I've seen it work.
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
@SW-User Couldn't agree more, just depends on the people. All those I got close to, we ended up in Skype calls or Discord, talking every day. Constant contact really does make a difference.
SW-User
@MrPerditus1 even if it's highly platonic and has that touch of fantasy.. 😁 Maybe exactly because of that is easy to fall.
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
@SW-User So true. :)
It's possible but it's fickle and you need to remember that it is all based on a fraction of the whole personality. You can never really know until you actually spend time with someone.
Mindful · 56-60, F
Easily! But that is fookish. I’ve been there. Then his single ass “WIFE” called to tell me he was a drunken addict who didn’t know how to be faithful and that I was only one out of a dozen women whom he had managed to get to fall in live so his meeting me wasn’t ever actually going to happen. So I just wouldn’t recommend i”falling “ for someone you met online unless you have SEEn then more than once not pictures.

Now I met another man online...
But he’s my boyfriend and I met online initially. This time before I let myself “fall” in love, I required to meet within one week...ultimately he turned out to be amazing...and we are still living together (I no longer wish to be married)

Also My best friend met her husband online ...20 years ago!
Mindful · 56-60, F
Oh, I haven’t seen the show, but I’m GLAD there is one out there! @Mrsbetweenfatandfit
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
[youtube=https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=BmpI39eSFLc]heres a trailer of it if you’re interested to watch. Yes it’s let people know @Mindful
Mindful · 56-60, F
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit love it! Hmmmm I think every dating app should require people to watch that show!!!! Ever since I had my experience, I managed to turn things around. Guys would start to woo me, and if I found them interesting, I’d ask to meet them. Excuses became apparent and after the failure to meet, I just didn’t taken them to my heart.
Platinum · M
You can think it's love, it can feel like you love them, but you need to meet the person to see if your personalities are alike
indyjoe · 56-60, M
Here is what I believe...You can fall in love but it is with an idea and/or an image of the person. You cannot fall in love with the person themselves with out actually spending time with them and getting to know them in person. You're more in love with being in love than with the person themselves. That is my opinion.
Beautywithin · 36-40, F
No, but I can imagine it's a false love, how can you honestly know you love them without spending any real time with them, you need to love every side to them not the picture you just have in your head
SW-User
ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
Yes and yes. We are friends now but it's a very deep bond. Known them for 10+ years now. It's a very unusual situation I realize. A rare connection. I know him completely though we have never met.
Seeing someone in person makes the relationship physical but does not tell you anymore about them. Otherwise all offline relationships would exist in perfect harmony and understanding. People have been duped and will continue to be duped on AND offline.
SW-User
There are people who are special, who i feel i could fall in love with but not online.. that final moment would only come after spending time with them in person.. but even then, i might not let it go that far, for various reasons, including my ability to give them the life they deserve.
classicrockjunkie · 46-50, M
yes,i did and this is how things for me ended up me,rejected and hurt.but still moving on in life.
classicrockjunkie · 46-50, M
@sleepykoala never even got that far along to meeting.
sleepykoala · 31-35, F
@classicrockjunkie I am sorry, that sucks. But shouldn't give up.
classicrockjunkie · 46-50, M
@sleepykoala well i am still trying to move on but it hurts at times.thank you.🙂
DamnFeelz · 36-40, F
No, but you an be enamored by the idea of them.

Aside from online dating, I met someone once from a spirituality chat room when we were kids. We talked for several years before we ended up meeting in adulthood. I mean, I thought I loved him. Upon hindsight I realized we mostly loved the stories in our head about each other/our dynamic (the traveling artist and the writer etc) more so than the reality of how it played out and the intensity was just our issues being agitated. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t regret it though. I’m glad we met. It changed the course of my life.
adorbz · 26-30, F
I’d like to think you can but Idk if you can know for sure that it’s love you’re feeling until you spend time with them in person
ancientmariner · 61-69, M
Yes because I'm in love with Kristen Bell but I've never met her 😁
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
@ancientmariner I have that thing going on with Jeffrey Dean Morgan 😂.
ancientmariner · 61-69, M
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
I think you can fall in love with the [i]idea and images[/i] of being in love with someone you haven't met in real life.
monkeysdevil007 · 46-50, M
Yes and it can be both incredibly rewarding and painful in equal measures
Lanyx · 41-45, M
Yes you can. An emotional connection can happen remotely too.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
I Never fall in love, just lust.
olderuncle944 · 70-79, M
good idea
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eMortal · M
Sort of and twice actually. You'll be surprised how people can fake their personalities just to fit into what you told them you like.
Byron8by7 · M
Yes, I have. I met and fell in love, on the phone, with three women, many years ago, before dating apps existed.
olderuncle944 · 70-79, M
i met my online love after a few years it was wonderful
olderuncle944 · 70-79, M
yes and finely if your lucky you meet them
Dusty101 · F
I believe people believe they can.
Benjr134 · M
I have not.
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Doomflower · 36-40, M
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
I did and we’re married now
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
@Mindful Thank you! No! Actually I was on a chat room type of place that didn’t even have photos for people. I wasn’t looking for a relationship just conversation. I had moved out of state away from my friends and was in a different time zone. He reached out and the rest is history 🥰
Mindful · 56-60, F
Wonderful when things just work out naturally@Mrsbetweenfatandfit
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
@Mindful I’m thankful for it ❤️
Zonuss · 41-45, M
Love is divine. Yes it is very possible.

 
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