What's harder: wanting someone, or not wanting them?

@GohantheThird no...thats not what i said.

@RubySoo in my mind, the scenario you describe is not wanting them where as wanting them would be harder due to intimacy issues.

@GohantheThird no. I said its harder to want somebody knowing there is no chance ever of having them. That not the same as not wanting them. Thats just my take on it.

@Dusty101 who does?

@GohantheThird I'd say there's a few.

@GohantheThird if you want them and they don't want you, there's feelings to deal with. If you want someone and are with them, it can be a tough thing for many reasons for someone. Fear of intimacy and such for example.

@HannahSky the first one is what I think of when I say "not wanting someone", which I struggle with. Can see how wanting can be hard too though.

@GohantheThird I hear ya