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Attractive?

When he tells you you are attractive or (very) but not pretty or beautiful...what does this mean?
Men: is it just an adjective?
Woman: do you find it insulting?
CuriousCuckold · 61-69, M
Attractive is a physical description. Beautiful is a description of not only your looks, but what makes you beautiful as a person. Or maybe he just doesn't know the difference.
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@CuriousCuckold thanks. That was a long time ago.
CuriousCuckold · 61-69, M
@Gemini16 I was just trying to be helpful. I guess we live and learn.
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@CuriousCuckold thank you
TakenDown232 · 46-50, M
When he says to you:
Beautiful: it means he still evaluating his relation with you.

Attractive: now he moved to the next level and wants to sleep with you.
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
I did at the time. But things changed since it was first said.
SW-User
Years ago I was sitting next to a man on an airplane who was older than me. I wasnt 21 but he lied to the stewardess that I was of legal age to drink. We were drinking vodka and he was trying to get me to get off of the plane and have some "fun" with him. I declined as I was on my way to see my boyfriend and not interested in him at all. But here's what I find so funny. He said to me "you know you're really attractive but you're not a knock out"! LOLOLOLOL So maybe it's a good thing I didnt get off the plane. 🤣🛩️
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@SW-User a little insulting
I'm happy you safely made the right choice!
SW-User
Very insulting. But his opinion didnt matter to me. I'm sure his wife didnt care for his opinions either. 🤣 @Gemini16
kyredhead · 41-45, M
Attractive is an adjective I would use for someone I do not know. "she's an attractive lady"

Beautiful is something I would call my wife or someone I know. It speaks to more than just looks.

Pretty is a flower or little girl.

IMO
ScarletWitch · 26-30, F
@kyredhead pretty is not used for little girl. Pretty is also used to compliment a stranger. I wont tell a stranger I think she is beautiful, but sometimes I have the courage to say i think she is pretty. So I hate to disagree.
kyredhead · 41-45, M
@ScarletWitch That's the great thing about opinions...you are welcome to have your own.
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@kyredhead thank you. I really like your analogies
Northerner · 70-79, M
I would say most girls are pretty or beautiful due to their looks.
But my interpretation of attractive is their appearance and attitude .
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@Northerner that makes sense
walabby · 61-69, M
If I called my wife pretty or beautiful she would think that I'm going senile.
I often tell her that she looks great tonight...
TexChik · F
F’ able when a pillow is over your face?
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@TexChik ouch!
Carissimi · 70-79, F
What a horrible thing to say to a woman. 😖
Wait a minute. I need clarification... did he literally say the phrase "you are attractive but not pretty or beautiful"? Or did he refer to you as "attractive" rather than call you "pretty" or "beautiful"?
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@Hysbjxswavnj yes, misspoke.
He says I'm attractive
@Gemini16 oh ok. Gotcha. That's how I interpreted it but from reading the comments I think others may have interpreted it the other way.

For me, attractive means more than looks. It's about how I feel around a woman. If she fills me with a sense of desire then I would say shes attractive. I've found some women to be pretty but utterly unattractive. I've also found women that are less than ideal on the pretty factor but that i am wildly attracted to because of our chemistry.

So for me, attractive is a pretty big compliment.
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@Hysbjxswavnj thank you. I know I'm all 3 ! Lol, but every girl likes to hear it!
Pretzel · 61-69, M
beautiful me is unapproachable (think Grace Kelly, Jenna Coleman, Jacklyn Smith in her prime)

pretty is a little less unapproachable

attractive is like Mary Ann on Gilligan's island. approachable and good looking - and you wouldn't be afraid to ask them out
ScarletWitch · 26-30, F
Tell him to start calling you pretty.
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@Carissimi no, I wrote that wrong! I understand the confusion now! I meant he doesnt call me pretty or beautiful. He says I'm attractive. Or I look beautiful, (one time) LOOK, NOT ARE!!!
Carissimi · 70-79, F
Okay, now I get your meaning. Thanks for the clarification. Well, I can only think he finds you very attractive. Other than this, I don’t know what it means. Probably nothing. @Gemini16
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@Carissimi I did ask him about it and he wonders if he doesn't compliment me enough! It must just be his adjective!
SW-User
Wait.. what?
He’s outright said you’re not pretty?
WTH!
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@SW-User the word attractive instead of pretty or beautiful
SW-User
@Gemini16 hmmmm......
I need to ponder on this one.
It almost sounds like you’re making it a ranking of sorts.
Beautiful #1
Pretty #2
Attractive #3

In my opinion, one isn’t superior to the other
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@SW-User yes, that's how it seems to me.
SteveTomms · 56-60, M
there are many beautiful or pretty women I've met over the years who I didn't think were attractive.....
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@SteveTomms that makes sense
SteveTomms · 56-60, M
@Gemini16 yes, it's usually a warning sign (not that they might be interested in me anyway) as I ask myself why don't I find d you attractive...
It can be just an adjective, sometimes how it's said can tell more than what is said
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@plAfulandalittleNaughty he has since called me pretty and beautiful. But now its over. It doesnt matter!
@Gemini16 oh okay, take care
BirthYear1993 · 26-30, M
Attractive means beautiful nature and kind heart
SarahNation · 70-79, F
Just tell him to get his eyes tested! 😄
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
@SarahNation he tells me im pretty now ;)
Gemini16 · 56-60, F
Thank you and you are right#

 
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