I need advice Ok so first things first I am asking for no judgement please. Any hateful judgy...

SW-User

It's really impossible to have a good relationship when you're both committed elsewhere

You need to leave, even if it's scary and then only settle for men who treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and have the self respect to provide for themselves not mooch off you. Someone to give you the attention someone gives when they're interested in you as a romantic partner that they can potentially commit themselves fully to

You're worth it.

👍

Complexconfessions · M

The heart wants what the heart wants sometimes. That doesnt always mean its the right thing but that's part of life and learning.
As for the other guy, he might just be waiting to see how you felt about it and not wanting to push. Or he could be waiting for you to initiate more interaction. Some of us guys like being chased more than we like to do the chasing.

PrivateHell · M

Could be guilt or uncertainty. He could be torn between wanting more and knowing he shouldn't pursue it further. Knowing you are married and he is in a serious relationship, he probably feels he needs to distance himself for both your sakes, but can't stop wanting you.

Tough position to be in. Hope it works out for you both whichever way you go.

Viper · M

I'd say he's not one to have a relationship with, as the cycle will probably continue and cycles like that can suck.

Every guy and situation can be different (not saying we are, just that it can be different), but on average, I'd say he afraid to feel something more deeply lines of thought.

Though it's possible he could be feeling guilty, but for the average guy, I doubt that's why they suddenly ghosting you

BEENOV · 51-55, M

This can be a little confusing for a gal, but as I can see from your pic you are a very beautiful woman and he just wanted to enjoy the pursuit of a hot married woman. When you guys met and done whatever you done was enough for him. His future is with the big wigs daughter and the security of the job. No disrespect to you on his part he just exercised his insecurities

Valerian · 100+, M

The "FANTASY" got ruined by [b]Reality[/b].
This Actually Happens a Lot!
Suddenly the Wish / Dream / Fantasy is Real
And "Something" occurs in the physical moment and/or in the thoughts
AND "POOF!!"[i] "This isn't what I wanted!" [/i] fills the room.

You didn't cause it, his Conscience & Marriage got n the way most likely.
It was a fun game till the End!

Hang this one up! Move On!
Find a Decent Single Good Guy and start Again!

ALSO ... Dump your lazy 7 year Mistake before you have kids with him and he's in your life [big]Forever! [/big]

Travelbug · 56-60, F

You are obviously very unhappy at home and any attention you get elsewhere makes you feel good and takes your mind off things at home. When I was in a shit marriage and a man at work fancied me, I did love the attention.

SW-User

Probably a little guilt. Since their was no magic, I think you should let it go.

Sorry about your at home situation.

1Dogma · F

well, you're committed to someone, maybe a the deal-breaker that's why he's having cold feet. You cannot have your cake and eat it too.

Pretzel · 61-69, M

he just doesn't want to get into a messy situation

sorry for you confusion and pain dear.

vetguy1991 · 51-55, M

Sounds complicated

CodeLyoko · 16-17, M

Whats a big wigs daughter?