Why do you think he didn't show up?

At the very least, he’s rude and wasted your time. So he was working hard and didn’t check his messages? Did he also forget to meet you? Were you supposed to be his alarm clock? Sorry. I just find his excuses lame and weak, and don’t believe him.

I am truly sorry for your disappointment, but now you know he’s not worth your time. Also, don’t drive 2-hours to meet someone. Make him come within 30-60 minutes of your location. A man who really wants to see you will do that. 🤗💐

I know I'm not the only one to tell you how dangerous what you did was.

Just thought I would add a comment about why I'd take a chance meeting someone I met on the Internet.

All my life I've been conservative and cautious about things like that. I've always used a lot of common Sense about risky situations. In general, I have been careful about taking undue risk with people or activities.

And...I've been a victim of violent crime numerous times anyway! And I've always been revictimized by people assuming I must be very irresponsible and trashy. The comments people have made, the questions people have asked me to put me on the defensive, were actually as hurtful as the crimes themselves were.

It seems all my caution did was limit my life. It did not prevent harm and it did not save my social reputation at all. It is now one of the facets of my life and personality I find myself reexamining, like my former belief in always handling conflict non-violently. (I've come to the conclusion that harsh words are often more destructive than fists). A lot of things are now questionable in my mind; this is like a second adolescence for me.

I totally get the second adolescence bit. If we missed out on a proper childhood or teenage years we have missed out on experiences/ development and possible fun or not so fun times.
I can understand why you wanted to meet the guy but make sure first hes chasing you not you driving miles to see him. Meet first in a pulic place for a short time & keep things on your terms till you find out more about him.
I sorry this didnt work out, however plenty more fish in the sea. Try to meet someone through a club activity hobby its a bit safer than a shot in the dark.
All the best.

Sorry to say, but Whatever the reason, he definitely has no respect for you, or himself..

If he really wanted to meet you he would have checked his messages. It sounds suspicious.

I'm very sorry he wasted your time like that. it may be for the best, though, maybe he isn't who he said he was

My idea: he's a liar.

Nervous.

fear

could be all there was to it...

who knows. ...

Might not be who he said he was. Sounds suspicious. Be careful. 🙂

I'm thinking that you dodged a real bullet there.