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What should I do?

My bf leaves me home alone w our four month old baby.

Abt 3 Years ago my bf invited me to hang out w his friends .. However I'm not a late night person. One time while hanging out I became sleepy n my bf refused to drop me home, I became angry n his friends noticed. Since then he My bf stopped taking me out since.

Last night his friends dropped him home and I know they all went to the beach during the day. I was home alone w baby.
nedkelly · 61-69, M
Simple responce - dump his sorry arse
It’s time for him to stay though, isn’t it? @nedkelly
nedkelly · 61-69, M
@Spoiledbrat Why, he is not sorry for his action saying sorry will mean nothing
He’s using her and abusing his time with her. So what she does next is fucking karma. @nedkelly
JessicaVl · F
I understand your frustration and you are probably not sleeping well.
You can go places with your baby too, you can joy a Mama's club to exercise. When I go to the beach, I sometimes see them with baby's stroller doing morning exercise.
Think about.
destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@JessicaVl ok.... I should be getting a car of my own in coming weeks... So that will be possible then, however it don't feel nice to do those things when I know the child's father is hanging out w his friends.
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destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@SW-User I'm saving quietly... I'll have to have things in place before I leave.
He shouldn’t party so much. Some people don’t have goals or hobbies. They’re happy just to drink and hang out.
destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@Spoiledbrat true.... He might be inheriting a piece of land soon, I think thats why he not saving and so careless.
It’s good that he has something to offer you and your baby but the choice is up to you. I was just making a point by suggesting you cheat. Of course you have to do what’s best for you. @destinyfabulous
SatanBurger · 36-40, F
@destinyfabulous Just going based off what you say because I don't really know you or him. However, that's "might be," not a for sure thing that he'll inherit land.

Even if he does inherit land, being lazy and leaving you home while he goes to party is irresponsible. Look, people [b]are allowed[/b] to go out sometimes even if you do have children but being totally careless isn't the way to go about it.

This should really be an equal deal here between you two, there is no part time with having a family. You ([b]not[/b] you specifically) don't have a kid and think you can just shun responsibility.

To be honest, it sounds like a warning sign of where the relationship is heading in the future. I'm not trying to be cold but a quick observation tells me that isn't going to end well.
SW-User
Your post doesn't make sense. You said in October your baby was 4 months old. And you say it's still 4 months. In older posts you say he doesn't sleep beside you in same bed and then he's long distance and stuffs and he ignores.

Not sure why would you have a baby with him who clearly has other priorities, evident from the beginning. If he wasn't that serious, why have baby and make it serious when clearly he wasn't attentive for a long time?
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destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@Travelinman in oct I asked would u support ur spouce and a four month old baby, I asked that cause in dec when baby is four months my boyfriend was supposed to be out of a job. Not that the baby was 4 months old at that time. Thankl God that my bf's company kept him on. Also yes he worked in another country for Abt one year (initially supposed to be a few months).

He treats everyone so nicely except me.
SW-User
Take my advice and leave this guy. This happened to me. He's not going to change and be a good role model for your daughter. You can do it. Be strong for your daughter. Years from now you will be so GLAD that you had the courage to leave. And it will become a faded memory that you rarely think about. Plus you will find a good man to help you raise your daughter. Your story was once my story. Be brave and leave him.
destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@SW-User u had some tough days huh... I'm glad u came as far as u are today 😘❤️
SW-User
Yes if I can do it so can you.🤗@destinyfabulous
SweetMae · 70-79, F
You need to find someone else. He has put you on the back burner...
What if she stays and just does her own thing like cheat?? He deserves it. @SweetMae
SweetMae · 70-79, F
@Spoiledbrat Some relationships work well that way too!
destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@Spoiledbrat I'll get a bad name and I might look like the bad one in the relationship if I cheat..
SW-User
Why is everyone advocating for her to leave him. Mediation is the best solution in this case. Its not something abhorrent. Does he know you dont like being home all the time with the baby?
destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@SW-User this has been going on for years
.. all avenues has been resorted to ... Only mediation or counseling left to do. He doesn't wanna go out w me, neither sleep w me, communication isn't always good either.
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😃😂 @Travelinman
Virgo94 · 26-30, F
[c=#002673] Why can't you go out just the two of you during the day? Get a baby sitter [/c]
destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@Virgo94 he wanna go out who's friends .... Not me.
JohnOinger · 41-45, M
Break With Him He Obviously isn't Gonna Change This Relationship is Unhealthy
Killerb69 · 51-55, M
If you have somewhere to go, leave his sorry ass. He doesn't deserve you.
Reflection2 · 36-40, M
Reflection2 · 36-40, M
@destinyfabulous work for it. Don't give up
destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@Reflection2 I'm saving and preparing to leave to a place where we will have lots of family n friends supporting us....60% there...😘
Reflection2 · 36-40, M
@destinyfabulous Best of luck 🙂
destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
I'm sorry y'all... I cussed his ass this morning...
SW-User
you should throw him out; he is opportunistic bc he knows he has no legal responsibility for you and the baby as he never married you
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ScarletWitch · 26-30, F
He needs a reality check... and get over it.
saintsong · 41-45, F
Talk to him about it

 
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