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How do you deal with people who cannot take no for an answer?

CharlieZ · 70-79, M Best Comment
Let me make some side comments about, based in experience.

The NO word is, in most of cases, not enough said by not saying YES. The NO should be clear, firm, not negotiable THERE, where things happen and also necessarily outside your own mind.

When you put your priority in whatever else different to the NO (like avoiding conflict, peace of mind or the "redemption" of that other described people), your NO will NOT work.
That also means that saying "I don´t care of what others think" means "I dont care if the take my ass as long as I look elsewhere". So, own "don´t cares" are just anesthesia for what will anyhow happen.

The NO don´t need to be an explicit ultimatum.
But the message of that some things wouldn´t be tollerated not even twice NEED to me part of the message in some way.
Your NO, to work, in a sense should be inconditional (for you, not negotiable under no foreseable conditions or excuses).
In the other unavoidable sense, conditional: "IF you go on trying, there will be results that you will like FAR LESS than
doing it even one more time".
And prepaired to make it true.

And, finally, if you don´t want to do this cos haves some kind of cost...recognice that (NO MATTER your intentions), your pretended NO is really a YES, an invitation.

Of course, those are just personal opinions, but ones I stand for.
Kwek00 · 41-45, M
@CharlieZ I don't cope well with ambiguity... but my neuroticisms aren't that extensive. I do like putting my socks on before my trousers tough. Can't do trousers without sox... it just feels wrong Charles. It's wrong I tell you!
Kwek00 · 41-45, M
@CharlieZ annyway, I'm off, have a nice one CZ.

Got to sleep before I wake up. Else it just feels wrong. 🤷‍♂️
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@Kwek00 Not sure about if I will, probably not.
If it don´t feel right, so it be,
Have a good sleep, K.

Well, you just don't give in. And you never explain yourself. You don't have to. No means no and make it stick. You don't go back and forth about it. Soon they get the message that you mean what you say. People keep going on and on when they don't think you're stable in your answer or mean it. Show them that you mean it by carrying out what you say you will do.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
If it's business i always say....I don't own the house/company/car/phone/laptop...etc.

If it's personal. If they haven't taken the 'subtle hint' say whatever your NO is but say it LOUDLY.
Much harder for people to come off as hard-ons if you publicly embarrass them like that.
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@Picklebobble2 "If it's personal. If they haven't taken the 'subtle hint' say whatever your NO is but say it LOUDLY.
Much harder for people to come off as hard-ons if you publicly embarrass them like that"

You get it RIGHT!!!😁. I agree!
Because, sometimes, if not, the one who becomes socially embarrassed is YOU (no matter how it´s excused)
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@CharlieZ I would have agreed some years ago but sadly there are some out there who really DO refuse to leave you alone.
More so men than women.
Make your point loud and clear preferably so that others around them hear it.
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@Picklebobble2 May be I was not able to say it clear enough.
I agree with you in this and intented to say it.
I just added that if you don´t embarass them publically, the result will embarass you in that same way.
I never had any issues getting my point across. 😌

look them in their eyes and say firmly
I SAID NO!
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@butterflymind1 That´s a good begining.
@CharlieZ add to that
the right body language
and you know
it helps when you have a face like I have
dimple in my chin devil within
and the don't mess with me look in my eyes
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@butterflymind1 I agree.
Body language and expresion helps when in person.
Where the "dialogs" are text based, there is no excuse for finding the right enough choice of words to say the [b]same message[/b].

In either situation and "media" there is an unavoidable key attitude.
[b]To make a visible, public, distinct difference between the ones who treat you right and the ones that don´t. [/b]
Are behaviours what define who are friends and not always (even if sometimes) the implicit role of the persons what provide the meaning to what they do or say.

As adenum, [b]the saying "indifference is the opposite of love" is as significative as the water already used to boil pasta.[/b]
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
Deppending on the subject, the person and the context, there ARE ways.
SW-User
Make it clear no is the only answer they get.
SweetMae · 70-79, F
Give them the cold shoulder.
Longpatrol · 31-35, M
Kick em between the legs? Works for any gender
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
Thank you for the Best Answer!
@CharlieZ 🙂
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@MentalFloss ☺️
xixgun · M
I say, "Did I stutter? What did I tell you?"
SW-User
Walk away let them argue with them self lol
Groofydorkgerdo · 56-60, M
She's a looker that's fact
TexChik · F
Not pleasantly
Lee124 · F
Eventually ignore them.
SW-User
Disarm them
@SW-User how so?
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
I stop answering.
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
According to threat assessment expert Gavin DeBecker, that (unwillingness to accept No) is the most significant sign you have found trouble in the form of a person. You can't change people like that, but you can usually avoid them.

 
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