How do you move on from an abusive relationship?

I got out of a really bad relationship a few months ago. While I don’t love my abuser anymore the affects still linger. To the point where I push people away because I am so afraid of being hurt. It cost me someone I really love recently, and I can’t stop kicking myself over it . How do you learn to be patient with yourself and learn how to allow someone to love you the way you deserve?

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JP1119 · 36-40, M

You’re not with your boyfriend that had cancer anymore?

lequack · 26-30, F

@JP1119 No, he said that he couldn’t be as emotionally invested in me because of his cancer. Although, he’s supposed to be in town the next couple of weeks and wants to see me.

JP1119 · 36-40, M

@lequack I’m sorry he doesn’t think he can be as “emotionally invested” in you. If I had a girlfriend and cancer I imagine I would want the emotional support my girlfriend could give me to help me through my battle, but I guess we’re all different. How’s your cancer treatment coming along?

lequack · 26-30, F

@JP1119 I sent you a message back. Yeah, I would want the support too, but he doesn’t like for others to see him so weak from treatment. He puts on a brave face, but I can feel how worried he is. We’re still friends, and he cares about me. It’s painful to talk to him though, so I try to minimize our interactions.

JP1119 · 36-40, M

@lequack I believe when we get to Heaven all our relationships will be made right. Till then, they’re all imperfect.