I think people need to realize it is only in the modern era when social media and SJW mindsets and over political correctness changed this line of thinking. my grandmother and grandfather fell in love when she was 15-16 and he was 19-20 and they got married 3-4 years after being together. The age of consent while I agree with it has gone a bit nuts and over board as long as the age is within reason I don't see the issue there is 10 years between my parents for instance but they were both of legal age when they met.
@CorkyCourtney I agree with you. Everything about dating is creepy these days if doesn't fit the standard of political correctness!
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@CorkyCourtney I agree. My mother was 17 and my dad was 25 and she was just finishing high school. If anything, she was the stronger more mature one in the relationship.
I'm torn ... a relationship between someone who is just embarking on legal adulthood and someone who has a few years experience with it might result in the younger adjusting plans and dreams to accommodate the romance...
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@Mamapolo2016 it could help the younger one not mKe the stupid decisions that fucks most of us over
The law sets a minimum age and that's the minimum age. Period. You can't have each and every person setting their own age. A 23-year-old can use and abuse an 18-year-old or treat her/him well. And an 18-year-old can use and abuse a 23-year-old or treat him/her well. It just depends on the person.
@SimplyTracie Oh, I am not saying I was ok with it. I thought it was weird and I had trouble processing it but I was 11 or 12 at the time. They were 18 and 23. I had no idea what it was like to be that mature so I had no clue. But both of them seemed like pretty good people. I dunno how I feel about it, to be honest. Some 18-year-olds are mature, others are not. I have a 19-year-old niece who may as well be 15. She isn't very mature at all. But I've known 18 and 19-year-olds who were more mature and worldly than I was when I was 23.
I think part of the issue is that adults don't want to admit that an 18-year-old girl (or boy...I should say, young woman and young man) is losing the innocence of their childhood. Adults (especially the parents involved) want to hold on to those precious childhood and teen years for longer than the actual years.
I know that when I was 18, I knew many older women I would gladly have been with if I had the chance. And I may have been out of my league but I would have done it and learned from the experience. I would have looked at it as a learning experience, not an older person preying on me.
🌹 Love is love, and who are we to intervene? I was 14, he was 19, we married and I had our first child at 15, who is to say what is right and what is wrong?
@SimplyTracie My neighbor signed for me, I do not think I could have ever got my mom to. What state would possibly say that 18 was too young, to marry, they certainly do not make that distinction when it comes to sending them into war to possibly die.
Why the hell would anyone wanna date someone that's still in high school? It's sus, tbh. Sure, the person's an adult. Barely. But let's be honest, the other person isn't even a teenager anymore. They got a life, they're probably not living with their parents, they probably have money and a job. You can't tell me that they have the same level of maturity as a high school student. It just seems like they're fulfilling some weird schoolgirl fantasy, or trying to get with someone vulnerable. It's gonna be a no from me, dawg. I can't imagine dating a highschooler, and I literally got out of high school last year.
To me it's about the maturity of both and the equality and respect in the relationship. Some people of those ages can be the perfect couple while with others it's clear one is taking advantage of the other.
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Legally they are good. I must say 18 is stil too young but never mind. As long not younger than that.