What is the purpose of an open relationship/marriage?
Why not just stay single and do what you’re doing or just have friends with benefits?
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JenLikes2Play · 26-30, F
@McRen I think the mistake you're making here, is thinking that everyone equates sexual exclusivity and monogamy, to commitment. That's true for some people, but not so for others. I'm commited to my husband, and love him, cherish him, and respect him. Exactly how he feels about me. We just like some sexual variety. 😇
I do not understand that, that is why I am asking this question. For perspective. @JenLikes2Play
JenLikes2Play · 26-30, F
@McRen I get it. But what I'm trying to say, is that if you find yourself unable to separate the act of sex, from everything else that constitutes a "relationship", don't fret over it. There's no "one correct" way of being in a relationship with your partner. Different things work for different people. And not only is that alright, it's great. Makes the world a lot more interesting. 😇
Graylight · 51-55, F
A marriage is with a soul mate, a partner. That one person is tasked with exciting and surprising you, offering you shelter and stability, showing you new things about yourself in the world, being your touchstone from where you begin to see the world. A partner is the known, the certain, the safe, but a partner also stretches the boundaries, offers adventure and pushes us toward the unknown.
That's a lot for one person to be to another. Sometimes, one way to bring excitement into the union is with another person. Sometimes they can offer something more superficial but just as desired. And sometimes, it's just fun.
The key to an open marriage is to enjoy it together, and never to use it as a reason to stray apart.
That's a lot for one person to be to another. Sometimes, one way to bring excitement into the union is with another person. Sometimes they can offer something more superficial but just as desired. And sometimes, it's just fun.
The key to an open marriage is to enjoy it together, and never to use it as a reason to stray apart.
JenLikes2Play · 26-30, F
People don't get into [b][i]relationships[/i][/b] just for the sex. You want emotional attachment, support, commitment. You want a friend, and a partner to share your life with, and build a family. However, opening up a relationship and having sex with others, is exactly about that. At least it is for me and my husband. All we want from other people, is sexual variety. Without any kind of emotional baggage.
I feel like if you truly loved the person you married, you wouldn’t want to share your body with anyone else. @JenLikes2Play
Northwest · M
Marriage offer a better match to laws, and society. Banking, kids, medical treatment, schools, etc.
You can re-create all of that, legally, but that only depends on where you're from (in some countries, it may not be possible), but this would be a continuous task, that is financially and emotionally taxing.
A marriage, is a one-stop shop that can handle all this in the background.
Sex is only one aspect of the relationship, and for some, it's possible to separate it out, allowing them to have sex with multiple people, without breaking or threatening the bonds that make up their relationship.
This, however, is true, of both parties want it, and the feelings remains, throughout the relationship. It can also have tragic consequences. My former assistant, was in an open marriage, but it turned, based on trial testimony, it was more about what her husband wanted. It took multiple trials to convict him of murder, after she disappeared, and the motive was jealousy, because she was getting involved with another man, and was thinking about leaving him. Her body was never found, and no physical evidence was ever found. He's now serving a life sentence.
You can re-create all of that, legally, but that only depends on where you're from (in some countries, it may not be possible), but this would be a continuous task, that is financially and emotionally taxing.
A marriage, is a one-stop shop that can handle all this in the background.
Sex is only one aspect of the relationship, and for some, it's possible to separate it out, allowing them to have sex with multiple people, without breaking or threatening the bonds that make up their relationship.
This, however, is true, of both parties want it, and the feelings remains, throughout the relationship. It can also have tragic consequences. My former assistant, was in an open marriage, but it turned, based on trial testimony, it was more about what her husband wanted. It took multiple trials to convict him of murder, after she disappeared, and the motive was jealousy, because she was getting involved with another man, and was thinking about leaving him. Her body was never found, and no physical evidence was ever found. He's now serving a life sentence.
wilderflower · F
REMsleep · 41-45, F
I don't believe in open marriage but, somepeople do want a life partner. They want to raise children with one person who will work with them to maintain a household, be that daily source of commitment and comfort, but they still want to have sex sometimes with another person. For some people in an open marriage they rarely have sex outside of their marriage. For some people they are bisexual and dont want to totally give up the other sex. Some people have different sex drives but they dont want to divorce over it. Some people never thought that they could or would settle down but their partner told them that open marriage was ok. There are many scenarios. Lots of them just like to have variety of sex partners.
in10RjFox · M
A motorbike can carry only 2.. but a car can carry 5+ .. and a van can carry 10+ .. and so on..
there is no purpose. in my opinion its the same thing as friends with benefits.