I have a stalker

One more thing: regardless of what he says and what you see in movies - people do not stalk other people because they love them. They stalk them because they are being deprived of something they want and they are trying to prove to you that YOU do not have control of your life - they do.

Do not yield to insistence that you need to do something they want you to do - because that will only prove they are right - they CAN control you - and it will encourage the stalking.

This is a tricky situation and I think you are right to be frightened.

1. If you won’t involve the police (yet), keep a diary of contacts (mail, text, phone, social media, in person). Detail date, time, place and what happened and what was said. Take and save screen shots where possible.

2. Change your routine at least temporarily. Don’t be so predictable. Leave earlier. Change your shift. Stay with a friend.

3. Do not yield to demands that ‘you have to talk.’ Do not go anywhere private with him. As firmly as possible, say “No.”’Always.

4. Explain the situation to family and friends and ask that they accompany you when possible so you are not alone.

5. Change your phone number, your screen names and your email address. Make it more difficult for him to find you.

You are really asking for trouble...REALLY asking for trouble. You have decided not to call the police and you have decided not to file a restraining order, so when he comes around outside your door at night...with you all unprotected, and him all unreported...there is NO ONE to help you if he gets angry, or decides that you are HIS and you don't get to decide.

So...if he becomes angry...and stalkers ALWAYS do when they are denied...it is you who have decided you want him to hurt you. And He WILL hurt you.

If you leave this unreported, you are allowing it.

That can turn dangerous quickly. You need to cut him off. If he can’t take a hint, get the authorities involved. However, you cannot go back to him. No booty calls, no drunken calls, no “hey how ya doing “ texts.

Yeah, you gotta be careful who you sleep with as it bonds you chemically and messes with your heads. What was he in prison for?.

You cannot have it two ways, just because he has been in prison is no excuse for his behaviour. Call the police or accept the fact he may hurt or kills you

If you're that afraid you need to call law enforcement before he hurts you badly.

I'm sorry, I would be scared as well. Tell him you will call the police and if you hear from him again you will have too. if this escalates it will be easier for you to convince a judge to issue a restraining order if it's been logged with the police.

I'd alert the police if I were you, especially as you're feeling scared

Why not call the police?? Your scared hes a threat.dont live like that.me id beat the shit outa him