Ex posting photo of our kid and new girlfriend together

@basiclife98 My ex will say that its fine and won't see the problem as I also have a new partner. 😐

@Keepitsimple He will say 'You have a new partner, what is the problem? ' but it is very bad taste and as I said, I haven't posted any photos of my partner out of respect and because we are not divorced yet. He still has photo of me and him on there too so I guess he really is making himself look a fool.

Things need to be discreet when there are children involved. @Jenni855

@Keepitsimple I agree. My brother just said he is making himself look fickle and like he doesn't have our sons best interests at heart by doing this. Which is true.

ok so i was right. part of this has to do with your guilt. you have to forgive yourself for that - even if he doesn’t. your conscience is reinterpreting this whole situation for you. @Jenni855

your guilt is talking to you. you need to find a good counsellor to help you process all this. it’s not easy. this is about more than a photo of your ex with his gf and your son. This is your guilt saying “i caused this. this is my fault. i deserve this.” and maybe even “he will do better than me because i was not good enough to him”

PS i think you still love him too. and having a son makes it even harder

Get to a counsellor to help you process. s/he will likely tell you a lot of what i’m saying.

@DoubleRings I don't still love him, I love the man I had an affair with. But I regret my actions and I know I need therapy to stop these feelings of feeling so threatened by her although I know my thinking is correct

The thinking even if it is correct like i said doesn’t matter. it’s irrelevant. if it’s a dig, it’s a dig. So what? You get to navigate the course of your life including your feelings. You’re not a victim here. You are in control. And if you don’t love him then that makes it even easier to put your hurt feelings aside and move forward. .

@Jenni855 that's unfortunate for your son as well

@SW-User He will just deny it and say he didn't think it would bother me

@Jenni855 be glad he'll be an ex soon

It can feel like that but like I said men don’t seem to think lol 😂 @Jenni855

@SW-User Believe me, he wants to hurt me by doing this and boy has he succedded

Ah ok then this isn’t acceptable.. all I can say it don’t rise to it smile an wave smile and wave 😉 @Jenni855

@Jenni855 The lessons learned about someone we were once close with are sometimes more surprising than when still together.

You learn this. The very deep, Not very caring and sympathetic people are far more common than you think and not easy to recognize until they begin to confuse you by doing things like that.

All that former care. Then you find out they were and are completely false to show it by stunts like the one you described.
You're okay it's not anything you did to deserve it.

@SteelHands Thank you. Hurts so bad.

@Jenni855 Everything's gonna work out okay. You'll be okay.

well of course. no one likes to go through divorce. it’s tough. when someone moves on with someone else, it’s easy to credit that person with the recovery from the depths of despair. @Jenni855

Are you feeling guilty about anything in the divorce by chance?

@DoubleRings We aren't even divorced yet. In the process of it.

ok so do you feel guilty about something? @Jenni855

@Jenni855 Are you still in your son's life?

@Qwerty14 Yes, co parenting

@Jenni855 Then you have nothing to worry about. Kids understand who their real parents are. As long as you love him and raise him then you'll always be #1. Heck that woman your ex is dating might not be in the picture this time next year. But you'll always be there for your kid

@Jenni855 So, he's a dick sac then.

At least youre rid of him now.

I cheated which was wrong but I didn't think I deserved that.

@Jenni855 If youre happy your ex is happy and, most importantly, your son is happy, then atleast yall have that

@Carazaa Yes. I have another partner. I just don't like my face being rubbed in it and feels like I am being replaced as Mom.