Do you believe in love?

I'm almost thirty and I've never been in love. I see people my age all getting married and settling down. I feel like something must be wrong with me. No one has every really put in that effort to be with me.

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lauriethecolourful · F Best Comment

I do believe in love, but I don't really know what it is yet. That's probably why I have never found it.

NCCindy · 36-40, F

When you finally find it, you'll be amazed how it changes your life for the better

TexChik · F

Love is amazing ... and it finds you when you least expect it .

SW-User

Yes I do and it will come to you

melissa001 · 51-55, F

I was 47 when I had my first boyfriend. I'm 50 now, and he just broke up with me. There were more than 20 yrs age difference, so I don't blame him. They were the best 3 yrs of my life. But don't know if I could go through it again,. Love and then lose ur love.

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

[c=#4C0073]I’ve been in love but, I believe people marry for different reasons. I’ve been proposed to multiple times, but I knew that they wanted an accessory or live in maid. I was looking to be a wife. I no longer believe in marriage anymore. Stats say that women are often the most unhappy in a marriage, anyway. I dunno if that is true, but I do know a lot of unhappy women. It’s really up to you. Don’t let others define what your life should look like. You’re young n beautiful. You have time to find someone if you want to. If not, don’t let others tell you that’s what you should be doing. 🤗 [/c]

Abbyrose · 22-25, F

It’s all subjective. If it doesn’t feel right, don’t rush.

helenS · 36-40, F

Dear Goldengirl, do you want to be in a relationship/marriage because [u]others[/u] are, or because you want to experience love?

Goldengirl22 · F

@helenS I dont care what other people are doing it's just an observation. My high school reunion came and I couldn't believe how many people were already settled down and married. I am nowhere near being ready to get married and settle down tomorrow. I just never been in love.

helenS · 36-40, F

@Goldengirl22 “Segui il tuo corso et lascia dir les genti
(Follow your road and let the people say)”
― Dante Alighieri, The Divine Comedy 🌷

QuietEd2019 · 31-35, M

Never been in love no boyfriends or girlfriends ever? I have been in a few relationships some felt deeply in love with. Love exists I hope it finds you if you want it to

PhoenixPhail · M

Have you ever put in the effort to make yourself available to be with someone in that way? I don't think there's anything wrong with you, AND I think everything is right with you. Your introversion may be holding you back. I know mine has held ME back all my life.

Goldengirl22 · F

@PhoenixPhail of course I have. I've put myself out there when I didn't feel like it and went out of my comfort zone. I may be introverted but I still tried and forced myself to talk to guys but in the end nothing good came from it.

PhoenixPhail · M

@Goldengirl22 I'm sorry you've had that experience. Maybe other people sense your forcing yourself, and feel your resistance. And congratulations for putting yourself out there. I know how hard that is to leave your comfort zone.
Also, it's a co-creation. There could be something going on with other people that doesn't lead to your getting together with them. You don't have to take it all on yourself. Other people have their stuff, too.