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Do u think I should have a baby before I get married ? 馃懄馃懅馃懚

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get married first then have a baby. I don't know. I kinda like it better the other way around. Because marriage is tough..nothing is guaranteed.
What do you think. Baby first dammit. 馃槧
Salix7546-50, F
marriage is hard work. having a baby is hard work.

The only "upshot" is that as a man, you have an easier time walking out if you can't hack it as the system generally favours leaving the child with the mother (another issue in and of itself I won't get into here)
Zonuss41-45, M
@Salix75 Hmmmmmm.馃
Miram31-35, F
@Salix75 That's a pity.
Miram31-35, F
Don't bring a baby into this world if you aren't ready to tend to the risks and the legal accountability.

Marriage isn't more difficult than tending to the needs of a new life
Miram31-35, F
@Zonuss Also it is kind of sound reckless to me to decide they will be fine. You are taking it recklessly. The best parents that I met are those who question if they are doing good instead of assuming it out of convenience.

I do realize these are harsh words but I am sure you can handle it.
Zonuss41-45, M
@Miram That's your opinion. Not mines.
Miram31-35, F
@Zonuss It is. Why would I type your own?
Budwick70-79, M
Your way nearly ensures failure in life.

At least finish high school, get a full-time job and wait until age 21 to get married and have children.

Only 2% of people following this formula end up in poverty. Nearly 75鈥塸ercent have joined the middle class (defined as earning around $55,000 or more per year).

But, I'm sure everything will work out just fine for you.
Budwick70-79, M
@Zonuss Hey Zone Boy - don't shoot the messenger! Brookings Institute is one of many that do not recommend having children outside of marriage. I mean, besides common sense.
Zonuss41-45, M
@Budwick Like I said you have a small mind. You come from a shit hole. So I doubt you even know how people manage in a steady middle class family. My family has lots and property. We weren't built from welfare. We built it ourselves. 馃檪
Budwick70-79, M
@Zonuss I'm sure your mom and dad did very well for themselves.
MissTaken36-40, F
You鈥檇 be unique and worth a fortune if you had a baby married or not 馃槀
Zonuss41-45, M
@MissTaken True.
LucyFuhr56-60, F
Kids don't come with a guarantee either.
(just sayin')
PoizonApple41-45, F
Whatever, just don't pierce your nose
RobG2251-55, M
It depends on your commitment to her. If you are truly in love her and both feel like with bringing a child into the world. I would say yes 馃憤. Give it a try. Sometimes it takes awile. Visit doctors. See if your sperm are active swimmers and if she is able to get pregnant and can carry a child. Both get green flags. Go for it. Anything else talk to the doctors and see what can or can't be done. Good luck.
Best to get pregnant now zonuss
Zonuss41-45, M
@Dewms 馃槉
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otto7851-55, M
馃 [i][b]What's best for the baby?[/b][/i]
Poppies61-69, F
Baby first can work out, but I think it鈥檚 better for children to have the stability of parents who are committed to each other. I know not all marriages work out nowadays, but I think it鈥檚 better to carefully choose your partner, make the commitment and do your best.

 
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