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Why did he act like this to me?

Started talking to a guy online and we hit off really quickly. He was saying all the right things being really respectful and seemed like a really nice guy. We exchanged numbers soon started texting a lot, exchanging pics ect. He even mentioned we should hang out soon. We only live half an hour away from each other. A couple of days ago I sent him a text saying hope you're not too tired since he was really busy working the previous night. I didn't hear from him for couple of day which I found weird because he's always texting and told me he loves talking to me. I texted him in the afternoon if he was doing anything tonight and I got no response. So I decided to call him 4 hours later if he wanted to meet up. I've never talked to him on the phone before but we've been talking for over a week and I didn't want to waste time talking months and months. So I called him and he didn't answer his phone so I thought I'd call again incase he couldn't get to it in time. The second time rings 3 times and I'm hearing the voicemail. He ignored me on purpose. I even texted him saying I was just wondering if you wanted to go out and have dinner. Again no response and it's been a whole day and no response from him which has really hurt me. He seemed so genuine I just don't get it and if he didn't want to talk to me anymore for whatever reason why couldn't he just tell me that. I just feel really hurt. Do I have a right to feel that way and could he have had at least the decency to contact me?
plungesponge · 41-45, M
A good rule of thumb is: If you've never met face to face, if you haven't seen them in person in their happiest and saddest state, there are major gaps in your understanding of that person. That doesn't mean it's impossible to form a connection online, but both people have to be unbelievably honest if you want to think of that relationship as anything remotely resembling a real one and 99% of the population fail that criteria.
summerlove · 31-35, F
@SW-User He just seemed so genuine. Maybe I'm just naive. I guess if he really cared he would contact me, not that I expect him to.
SW-User
@summerlove And if he didn't .. you can move on. One day at a time, we all go through heartbreak in ups and downs
Yes......key word there.....[i]if he cared.[/i] Obviously he doesn’t. Please move on, so as not to continue getting hurt.
@summerlove
SW-User
He wanted the non-existent relationship as it offered him comfort? When things became close he closed up.
summerlove · 31-35, F
@SW-User he actually insisted we should hang out first. He said lets go here and there and he'll pay even
You have a right. I think for your own sake, it would be best to protect your feelings and move on. I’m so sorry. I know it hurts.
wackidywack · 22-25
Player. Sorry you fell into that trap. People are terrible creatures
SW-User
Shiest. No matter what he was doing he should have returned your call and spoken to you in person. Dudes on here are psycho be careful.
summerlove · 31-35, F
@SW-User We met on plenty of fish app and yeah I expected a response from him at least.
SW-User
Anyone online isn’t safe until you know them well. They lurk in the shadows those types. @summerlove
Peaceful · F
Sounds like a fuckboi. There are plenty on sites like these. I'm really sorry. Look for the red flags with this one, so you can learn from it.
SW-User
You have all the right to feel hurt, and he should at least make it clear where his sentiments amd intentions stand. That he owes you.
LyricalOne · F
I feel pressured just from reading that. Gotta learn to back off and let things breathe.
LyricalOne · F
@summerlove And texted him and texted him and called him and called him again and texted him. 🙄
summerlove · 31-35, F
@LyricalOne I was just annoyed because he purposely chose to ignore me. Even though you meet someone online some people tend to forget they still have feelings and being ignored is hurtful.
LyricalOne · F
@summerlove I agree with that but pressuring them isn’t gonna help and like the others said, you were probably just dealing with someone who would say anything to get something out of you. Consider it a lesson learned and hold back a little next time. If the person really likes you, you’ll hear back from them. If not, you’ve dodged a bullet.

 
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