Do you guys agree with this article about being afraid of a relationship (read link)?

Hey.

First off, if [i]Glamour[/i] is running your life, someone should point out to you that you need to "get out more" and clear your head of the typical nonsense you might find there. 😉

Having said that, the article has a set of very different rationales...[b]on the face of it[/b]...but they ALL share FEAR as the basis.

I think fear is a killer of all manner of things: it saos our energy, kills our dreams, keeps us from trying out new things, etc. As such, it closes down our minds & shuts down our lives, our souls, our very selves.

Q: Would you WILLINGLY stay with a person who controlled you with fear?

If not, then perhaps FDR's dictum that "the only thing we have to fear, is fear, itself" might be something you need to take to heart. DITCH FEAR.

Instead of polling ppl who do NOT know you, ask yourself if any of your "friends" know you well enough, are keen enough observers, etc., to give their opinions more weight than "the average bear". If any DO fit that, then how did their observations about you strike you, in your heart of hearts? Dead on? Completely off-base?

OK, now did any of the 12 reasons in the article strike you as accurate for YOU?

NOW...is there any OVERLAP between those 2 sources of ideas/info/feedback?

I think you KNOW. And fear can be healthy (fear of driving roads made treacherous by weather might keep you from being the lastest story of a bloody wreck on your local news), but also DEBILITATING whe it becomes the overall background & overarching concern of your life.

Hey, you have only so many precious seconds of this life in the amazing & beautiful Universe. The beginning of Genesis says that God put us here TOGETHER to experience this amazing existence in this amazing place *together*...

So please...take a chance. Yes, ppl WILL let you down, but you are a person, too, so YOU will let ppl down, as well. So we need to live with both forgiveness (when others hurt us but are truly contrite) and humility (because we will let them down, at some point). But that's part of being imperfect. Acknowledge it and move on...

Who knows? You might be missing out on an AMAZING life because you have decided to let FEAR be your partner. Kick the f_cker out and live!

I think being afraid of change is a big one. I haven’t dated since I left my ex wife around 4 years ago. I unfortunately married extremely young and for the wrong reason. I became super antisocial while in the relationship and even more so afterwards. It’s not necessarily that fact that I want or need a romantic relationship, but I do miss having that sometimes. I’d say not to worry about what your friends think about that aspect of your life. Start dating again when and if you’re ready.

I mean its been 4 years since my last one and i'm a little apprehensive about being in another one but tbh lifes too short so if you see an oppurtunity then take it, maybe you just haven't been interested in it since.

I'm only just kinda looking at the idea and considering the possibility but it just tends to happen really doesn't it 🤷‍♂️
you'll do it when you feel like it or it just falls upon ya.

End of day there no time on dating and really up to you when you feel ready to date again

I haven't dated in 7 years either..I wouldn't say I'm scared just very wary about letting someone that close to me again.