payments on date

If I'd asked her out, I'd traditionally expect to pay because it was at my request. If she felt strongly that we should go 50/50, I'm fine with it. I just wouldn't expect her to have to pay anything.

I've generally paid .. but my last non-married date was about half my life ago

Yes! I make it a rule on the first date to go Dutch. It's standard practice anymore.

I always go Dutch

too right... no freebies