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Did you gain anything out of your past relationships?

Have you become cynical and bitter from them or grateful and thankful for them ?

Or do you feel you haven’t gained anything from them ?
VolpeTredici · 31-35, M Best Comment
I got many things from them, good and bad. Most importantly I learned how to appreciate someone, and to say 'to hell with those who don't deserve it.'
@VolpeTredici ❤️

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Oh hello you look so pretty today, white is gorgeous on you!

I feel I grew over time, not sure it was because of those people, I give myself all the credit!
@SW-User @SW-User thank you 🤗

@SW-User
I like that view point. 🙃❤️
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@Stark Thank you! I cannot give some of those losers credit for making me fantastic.. lol😅
@SW-User 😆❤️
Gothdoll69 · 22-25, F
Yeah I learnt what an unhealthy abusive ones where, I've experienced sexual, psychical and emotional abuse. But it taught me to be a better person and I also learnt my mistakes and how to love healithly.
Straylight · 31-35, F
I think the one I learned the most from was a girl in college. She was waaay in the closet and everything we did had to have a cover story. It was too much for me and we ended it. But I learned that you can't make someone be something else, and that applies to both of us. I couldn't make her take a step she wasn't ready for, and at the same time, I couldn't make myself unhappy to keep up a relationship that just didn't work. Sometimes people just aren't right for each other, and that's ok.
@Straylight ❤️
MissTaken · 36-40, F
Yes don’t marry an alcoholic with a violent streak
Bleed · 41-45, F
I didn’t marry one but I divorced one 😒@MissTaken
MissTaken · 36-40, F
@Bleed I didn’t know at the outset - also divorced
Bleed · 41-45, F
Mine was a high functioning alcoholic. Never missed a day of work and always got up early. So nobody else saw and knew what I had to put up with. He’d threaten too but never hit me but would punch holes through walls and smash shit up. He never apologised as he always claimed he didn’t remember what he’d done
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Tons of lessons so I don’t regret anything
@SW-User ❤️
4meAndyou · F
I think I have become somewhat cynical, for sure. I have definitely learned that love dies very hard, and I have learned that I have no wisdom when it comes to falling in love with the wrong person.
@4meAndyou I wonder if instead being cynical if we’re really just expected to be a bit more observant and realistic when it comes to love. I think I was really cynical and bitter for a long time but I’m more of grateful now I feel I gained a lot out of it even though the outcome didn’t feel like it.
4meAndyou · F
@Stark My relationship with the 3rd ex (the last ex) was wonderful for a long time. I lived a lifetime with him, and grew up with him, and eventually learned to struggle for my own independence while being crushed. I even learned to lie down and wish I was dead for a while. And then I learned I can't stay down. I learned to measure my own strength, and astonish myself.
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I am still heart and broken, so yes I’m a bit cynical about falling in love again as I don’t want to give my heart again to someone, and have it broken in pieces once more. 😢
@SW-User Why not just focus on you right now then and no one else ? I get anxiety when I feel myself start to catch feelings because of my last relationship I think that just tells me I need to focus on me a bit more 😅 just work on me more and imma go at my own pace of whoever is interested feels it’s too slow then o well 🙃.
Arorin · M
it is said you learn more in defeat than in victory. I feel like i gained wisdom from my failures and grew from them.
@Arorin I feel the same way 🙂
Arorin · M
@Stark then you are wise!
94tanpopo · 26-30, F
I'm both. Because of them I become more mature and at the same time I no longer believe in love after they hurt my feelings
JP1119 · 36-40, M
@94tanpopo So just because you got your heart broken once, love must not be real?
@94tanpopo I think I was like that for a while and probably still a bit hesitant even but you shouldn’t give them that much power over you.
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@Bacon I can relate I felt really cynical at the start too but then I started to realize how much stronger I’ve become and how much I’ve grown from it. My standards and expectations have risen towards people in general and I just feel I started to realize my worth a lot more. I’ve just learned from it really, even if it ended terribly I gained a lot out of it. 🤷🏽‍♀️
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What I learned was to never go for those types again. I avoid looking behind and forgetting those from my past. Life is too short!
@SW-User Yes ma’am! 😊
Herpes? Just kidding, no diseases.

Hmmmm... I guess I gained good examples of what I don't want?
SW-User
I think I got some good things and some bad things. Just a mixed bag really.
SW-User
I've learned a lot from every relationship good and bad.
SW-User
Bitter. But I learned about myself and others.
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I'm just bitter.
@SW-User I was extremely bitter for a really long time too.
Bleed · 41-45, F
I gained the most in my last relationship so I lost the most when he left.
When you know and can justify why a relationship ended you can always gain knowledge from them. When you fail to make sense of it it just leaves you broken.
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@thedoctorisin 🤔 so did you right ?
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abooklover · 56-60, F
Triggered and skeptical. Not always bad things. Caution can be helpful.
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JP1119 · 36-40, M
@KellyLancaster Like what did you lose? Feel free to PM me.
Thursday · 22-25, F
Only more experience.
@Thursday more experience is good I suppose.
Magenta · F
Just more cynical.
Of course i gained, i learnt how to love
@InOtterWords 🤗❤️

 
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