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so..i wanna know if i am wrong or i am right..or

if i just need a little help with a fresh new perspective is all
my ex just got a hold of me i think 2 weeks ago.or 1 week ago and he sent a very lengthy text message that was very sweet in one aspect and a little questionable also
so this one is the guy i dated for 2.5 years who was the crack addict..mind you he was for 17 years. and i dealt with a lot from him and yet did what i could to tempt to try to help and in the mean time it took its toll on me with every aspect of the relationship that it affected(effected lol i swear i will always have difficulties using those right lolol) anyways it ended in mid march officially and besided trying for two weeks in march he basically has been gone since first of january.
so to my point. he claims he is clean and sober which would be great if that is true! here are the things that concern me as far as the difficulties i have in believing him.

he is staying in a camper by his friends house which is also his boss...by the way this is the friend he worked for when we met and was friends off and on since we were togeher always complaining he didn't pay him however this guy did crack as well. they were friends for several years tho. and his guy does thirsty thursdays every week. This ex when he wanted to use and leave for 2 or 3 days or even more he would run back to this guy. yet complained he didn't pay him how he should. i never got honesty from this ex and i shouldn't really assume but my guess is this money he never got was really used for drugs and maybe his "friend" would front him and therfore the ex didn't get the money cause it was used elsewhere so he needed to use that as a reason he didn't havae money.

ok should i believe him when he says he is off crack and has been clean knowing he lives with this friend of his and works for him again and claims this friend also does not do drugs anymore either?
basically he thinks i need to quit looking at the past and i let the past overwhelm me and this guy doesn't do drugs and he is sick of hearing about this guy. etc. etc.
he just seems to think i need to take him by his word where i feel if u care so much about me and wanna be with me and love me like you say why in the hell would u even try to think calling me while u live there and work for him should convince me ur off drugs? is this wrong of me to think this way or should i take his word he is clean and absolutley done with drugs?
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
NO.
To ANY of it !

Addicts are the worst !
Even if they kick their chosen drug, if they're hanging out at the same old haunts with the same old people.......
Just....NO !
michgirl75 · 46-50, F
@Picklebobble2 that's my thoughts exactly as far as hanging out with same old haunts and people. He sees nothing wrong with it. as if his word should be all I need for convincing. I haven't fallen for it.
I didn't read the whole story. There is NO new perspective to an ex. Read that 3 times. Understand? Why do you think so little of yourself that you would return to a man who abused you? Where is your self esteem? Turn away from him. Move forward. Never look back. Do not be weak. There are other good, kind, decent, loving men in the world. Go find one of them. Be loved. Be respected. Be treated like the goddess you are. Hear me? Or be doomed to lose yourself again. Again.
michgirl75 · 46-50, F
@PoetryNEmotion I agree but I was just making sure I wasn't screwed in the head also lol
@michgirl75 You are a smart lady. You aren't screwed. He abused you. That will not change. Old patterns...leopards and spots...You know the sayings. Be strong. Move on. Do not look back. Never give a chance to an abuser. They change for a moment. And that costs lives.
Lackwittyname · 51-55, M
I would not take him for his word, I would have to see that he was clean for an extended period. That aside I would not even want to get back in a relationship with him, just would not be worth it. Be friends, be supportive, but be wary as well.
Lackwittyname · 51-55, M
@michgirl75 Yep, definitely not right. I can understand living in a camper if he needs to save up to get his own place, but overall he just sounds like a messed up person that cannot bring anything good or positive to you.
michgirl75 · 46-50, F
@Lackwittyname I guess that is true on maybe saving for his own place but his ways that I have known I can't even give him that as the reason.
Lackwittyname · 51-55, M
@michgirl75 All the more reason not to engage with him, the relationship is broken if you cannot trust.
Run
Do not walk
He is an ex for a reason
Thingschange4444 · 51-55, M
No offense. He may be a great guy. But if he's still working with his crack addicted boss then I'd say there's very little chance he ll stay clean for long.
michgirl75 · 46-50, F
@Thingschange4444 exactly!!
Fernie · F
I agree with Picklebobble….stay away from him...he is still in the dark!
michgirl75 · 46-50, F
@Fernie I agree..he is still in the dark!
Smtwn829 · 36-40, M
simple. dont he still lives in the place where it was previlant in his life previously. It would likely only take a small incident to cause him to slide back into it if he really is clean. if he got his own place and got away from them an found an actual job I would give it some consideration.
michgirl75 · 46-50, F
@Smtwn829 yes he does live in a place where it was previlant in his life previously that's why on that thing alone I would not consider it at all. maybe if he was on his own and had a job elsewhere but even then he proved to me his mindset is still not right. he tells me to forget about the past. so he clearly doesn't care how I feel or care about my thoughts and opinions etc. no nothing!!! so that's very unhealthy by itself.
Smtwn829 · 36-40, M
Good for you, It is good that you already have an understanding of this. You gotta look out for you GF.
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
Run away from him as fast as you can!
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