Can someone who truly loves u leave u without saying... a word ? 🤔

Sometimes they have heavy burdens in their lifes and aren't good expressing themselves, or are stupid and childish. But that doesn't mean they don't love you.

My bf on SW left me without saying a word after 9 months. While I believed he loved me, I don't believe it now.

No, if you truly love someone, then you won't leave them with absolutely nothing, unless you have no other choice.

But at minimum, you'd explain that choice to them.

If there is no love it's easy. If it's real love then no. At least I couldn't.

My last significant other, of 5 YEARS, mind you, did exactly this. Negated every good thing that ever happened. That's not love, it's cowardice.

There are two sides to every story... if you're only hearing one, then you really don't know unless this happened to you personally. Some people really just won't believe the answer you give them, and keep coming back for more reasons. If the person was a narcissist, then you will never win.

"Hard to win an argument with a smart person, damn near impossible with one who is not," <-- I never forgot that when I read it, but not sure where the quote comes from. I use it in the work place often!

I guess they have their reasons.

I dont believe anyone who says they love anyone. I find that people can be fond of someone as long as it fills a need they have but when that need isnt relevant then they are gone. Often they dont want to be "mean" so its easier to vanish than to tell another that they were not important

I thought a little bit more about this... no matter what you say some people are hell bound to take it wrong, they are eager to assign blame and no matter how prettily you try to say goodbye they're going to get angry with you.
Humans are not simple they are messy, complicated, and passionate.
Some people are so damaged I don't want to judge them.
They just can't do it.
I have given my explanations to them and then I have blocked them from my life, because they are not kind and I know they will just continue to argue the point and not let it go,because it's so much more important for them to be right than to see another person's point of view.
Every single time it hurts like hell ,like something's being ripped from my body ,because I have loved them, but I see now that they did not love me, they were just using me.
I ain't about to sit there and be plummeted over and over again by their unkindness if it makes me weak so be it.
But, I will argue that I am strong.
It takes a whole hell of a lot of guts to walk away when you're in love.
I too, believe it is better if you give at least some kind of explanation, but that doesn't guarantee the other person is going to be very receptive, kind, or even try to listen to a word you say.
Preconceived ideas and biases are really hard to fight.
Be nice if breakups could be wrapped up in a nice little bows and everybody goes away as a better person...
May even happen from time to time ,hasn't been my experience, but I'm willing to believe that it does happen in some cases.

[c=#4C0073]Yes, because the love of self should always come first. Sometimes you have to leave to preserve yourself. Sometimes you can’t say anything because you know they’ll ask you to stay and you know it would stop you. [/c]

Truly loves you? Nope. That is selfish self centered love. More like a narcissist

I didn't love my ex anymore but I said a proper goodbye.I did want to give him some closure.It didn't mattee if he hurt me or not.We left on a good note.
Some people are very bad at expressing it or just are afraid.Or maybe their immature.
I think its best to try to think of it that way so at least you can find a way to be understanding.

I find that being understanding eases the pain.

I don't know an answer of that. I really don't know.
Actually I would say there can't be true love or friendship when someone disappears suddenly without saying a word.
On the other site: Who knows the reason? 🥺
I really can't say.
I just know that this experience has really broken me. :-(

I know i couldnt do that.

Sometimes your the worst thing in their life ,you see it but they don't . If you do love them leaving is the best way .

I agree he never loved me

I could think of many reasons. Sometimes when you love someone you make a decision based on what you believe they need as opposed to what they want.

I have never done that but it was done to me... I was living in Hoboken nj..in 1991..
We loved each other. (so I thought) I loved him. He went to the gulf to be a photographer.
He promised he'd contact me when he got to Hoboken again.. He did. I was leaving for Dublin and he promised he'd follow me over.. I never heard from him.
So he never loved me.
He was in Dublin. I bumped into him in a pub.. He didn't know what to say.. I left.
Never heard from him again until 2 years ago. He truly messed me up!

I did that once with an online friend. I regret doing that and will never do it again. I will communicate my intentions with those I know.

Agreed, Zonuss

I did it myself, but only because it was the last resort to ever sever the bond as all others had failed. Many years later, I still wonder about him and hope he's happy. It was painful and not something I'm happy that I had to do but I did love him.

I agree

Sometimes, you know in your heart it's over and its easier to leave quietly... I can't explain it more than that but I understand her...

I couldn't. To me that is not the behavior of someone who truly loves you. It's highly painful. Two wrongs don't make a right.

Well.. I don't know.. women are particularly prone to avoiding confrontation and not wanting to hurt them.. So maybe a woman could love a man.. but just leave without saying anything.. because she doesn't want to hurt him.. or doesn't want to cause a scene.. I can be a coward.. When I wanted to leave someone... I just generally disappeared.. I didn't want to talk to hem.. to explain.. I preferred not to hurt them...

If saying goodbye would put them in danger they might leave without saying a word.

Some people think they look cool that way. Too much movies, I should say. 🤭

if leaving is the best option to them ?

Totally agree with you

Maybe he has his reasons

The words matter, too.

There are words better left unsaid. Perhaps it's their coping mechanism from extreme pain. If you felt the love before the person left, you must respect the silent exit.

Sure why not? People can be so disappointing I find.

I agree with what you said here.😶