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I need some assessment on a situation.

Okay, am I tripping out of my mind? Basically I'm talking to this girl, she's basically my gf now and we only text because she doesn't like talking on the phone. She used to reply very good in the beginning and now that we're official, I notice if I reply not within that second she'll take very long to respond, and always longer then my wait time. My last text, it took her 1 hour to reply. I know what y'all are thinking, I'm acting crazy and she's probably just busy but like I said she replied differently before and when I asked her what she was doing she said getting ready to take a shower, then I asked what "Were" you doing then and she gave me the same exact answer about getting ready for the shower. Call me crazy but I'm beginning to think she's having some egotrip or egospell where she's trying to make me wait long to see if I either text over my text or just to do it. I'm not sexist but I do believe women love their ego rubbed and this is certainly a way to do it but it's making me frustrated. She already doesn't like to talk on the phone which is fine I guess but she's not consistent as she used to be and she's just home, and usually when she's home she'll text just fine because she barely does anything if she is home. I don't get it. Am I missing something here? I'm trying to get an honest assessment on this, no rude comments, they'll get deleted. I just want answers. Am I just being crazy or is there a possibility she is intentionally doing this to feel more desirable or to get the upperhand and make me say something to polish her ego, like "hey were you busy?" I guess if that was her intention it worked because I texted saying she seemed busy, which I shouldn't have done because now I feel like if she is doing it on purpose I just fed into whatever she's trying to do.
Ryanoliver2011 · 26-30, M
I went through the exact same situation and I never got it fixed. All I can suggest trying is maybe be very blunt and say something like if I’m not important enough to you to get a quick reply then I don’t want to be a part of your life anymore or something like that and yes that could be considered manipulative but trust me when I say you absolutely do not want to be in a relationship like that. Or maybe just ignore her next text for a few days and then when she asks why you took so long to reply maybe say something snarky like “sorry I was getting ready to get into the shower” give her a taste of her own medicine. I’d try that before the ultimatum
justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M
@Ryanoliver2011 I feel if I say the first thing you said she'll make make it seem like i'm possessive, expecting her to reply right away. That's not what I want. i know everybody can't text right away 24.7 but in the beginning her replies were normal, we can barely have a straight up back and forth convo over text anymore, it's like after 2 or 3 replies, she goes mia for an hour, and acts like nothing happened with no explanation.
Ryanoliver2011 · 26-30, M
@justicexoxoxo yes it will probably come off that way that is a risk you will have to take if you try that. I don’t like to give ultimatums like that but have a few times in the past and it can go either way but yea wether or not she realizes she’s doing it I think ultimately she just likes feeling like she has the power or the upper hand in the relationship and if you let that continue then you will end up whipped... there really is no good way to go about this but I feel for you.
Wish I could be of more help
SW-User
Very often, girls are taught to reply late so as to not seem desperate so be direct and talk to her about it
justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M
@SW-User True. I don't know. Maybe I'm tripping but I just have a gut feeling that tells me , like my intuition that maybe just maybe she is trying to do it on purpose just to make me wait longer.
SW-User
@justicexoxoxo Yeah many girls, and even guys do it to seem like they’re busy and important
justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M
@SW-User It's stupid and childish. I basically confronted her just now over text. I didn't straight up ask but I basically said when I sent that text , you were gone for an hour, I thought you fell asleep "lol." Clueing her like I want to know what she was doing at the time. She keeps bringing up showering once again. smh Now it really raises red flags about this.
LG1976 · 46-50, F
No clue. Maybe just be upfront about your feelings and ask her...?
Ryanoliver2011 · 26-30, M
Trust your gut. It’s usually right

 
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