Do you love someone who doesn't love you?

Alan78 · 46-50, M

I have and it was a crappy time filled with huge ups and downs, 8 years wasted and in the end left feeling and probably looking like a fool :)

LadyGrace

Bring back the romance. Start romancing her again. Even set a time aside to date. She will appreciate it. Show her you still love her. She may be thinking the same about you. @rfhh1959

LadyGrace

@rfhh1959 I know...and I'm so sorry....But it is doable. It will take time, but you can do it. Anything worthwhile is worth doing and trying. You both may need to start learning how to trust each other again. One of you has to make the first step. even if she does not respond for quite a while, please just keep going and persevering. she will begin to take notice and I don't know if her heart is hardened or not, or if her heart is hardened, the loving steps that you take and not yell at her, will begin to be crack the hardness of her heart and allow love to start seeping in. If you're consistent, she'll get the message that you're sincere. This will work. Is she worth it to you? There are many things you could do, and as you go along, perhaps I could help you by giving you hints on how to win her back. I truly believe you can do this. I have seen instances also, where the person wanting to win their wife back, had to realize that when he changed and worked on himself, the marriage came back together. So be honest and check and see if it's you that needs some things about yourself, changed. This is not about men. This could also happen to a woman who is seeking to win back her husbands affections. I believe that both parties need to work on themselves. But for time being, if she is not willing to see where she needs to change things, then you'll have to be the one to step up and work on things on your end. This is not easy by any means. This takes dedication and even humility to admit you and her need help , and to change. It is not about blaming each other. It's about loving each other enough to help each other and support each other . To encourage each other. No yelling involved. My husband used to yell at me all the time and I finally told him , "When you yell at me , I can't hear you. Talk to me like a human being, and I'm all ears! " Your efforts will definitely pay off.