Confused and alone

No. Don't push if she asks you not to. How about just keep talking to her about everyday stuff and listen for the clues she lets drop. If something's bothering her, you already know what it is, but you don't know, you know. She's let it out in bits and pieces. It's what we do, before we say "if you don't know, I'm not telling you" People like to believe their partners actually listen and hear the underlying messages. It's like trying to read between the lines in a book. The clues are all there, but we can't see them because of all the other words surrounding them. Don't push, but don't just shrug it off either.

When woman say they're fine it means they r hurting just hush and listen and she will open up to you🌹

On the one hand, you should let thing pile up, on the other hand, you can't be completely clueless, about what's bothering her.

You should not create a list, and confront her, but you may want to stop asking what's bothering her, and switch "what can I do to improve our relationship". Don't make it about her, and discuss it as if it's a normal thing for people who want to be proactive, rather than reactive.

Take her to a very nice and secluded restaurant, or even a park. Tell her she seems not as happy as she was before. Look her straight in the eyes and ask her to be honest and that you will listen to her without interrupting. If she still says nothing is wrong, then maybe its you being paranoid. If so, work on that part of you looking for problems that dont even exist.

That's the worst, then you spend your time worrying about it. Wish i knew.

No, let her stew for a while and she'll eventually talk to you.