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What to do if your boyfriend cheats on you?

I just want some help so that I can take further action. My boyfriend has been cheating with his secretary. I caught them in the office and he fired her immediately. But I’d don’t think I can even tolerate to look at him and I’d like to leave him ASAP. He doesn’t want me to leave him and says it was just one time which I don’t believe. He wants to go to therapy and give our relationship another chance and I don’t.
Shayla · F Best Comment
On top of getting rid of him please do yourself a favor and get tested for STDs. Who knows how many he has played around with or what those girls sexual history is.
Maiya · F
@Shayla Thankfully I’ve always insisted on using condoms. And I already have been to my doctor. That was the first thing I thought of. Thank you Shayla.
Shayla · F
@Maiya Good to hear you're taking care of yourself. Keep it up.

Maiya · F
UPDATE:

First of all a big Thank You for showing me such support. My close friends and colleagues haven’t been nearly as supportive as you guys.

I have kicked my boyfriend out of my house. He was very shocked to see me stand up for myself as I’m not a very aggressive or confrontational person in general. I had thrown all his stuff out on the street before he got home. It was pretty funny to see his reaction to my actions. He has been trying to contact me and I have blocked him from all my social media and phone. His words of apology and whatever that he’s planning to do have no effect on me anymore. I’ve gotten rid of him for good.

Another thing. After this whole incident I thought of asking around and found out that he had affairs with not only his secretary but also my sorry excuse of a best friend and my cousin. It felt bad but I have kicked them out of my life too, I didn’t expect this from them, as three of us have been very close since we were kids. Their betrayal feels far worse than his.

My Ex-Boyfriend(😉🤣😆😂) started complaining about how I’m being very unreasonable as I’ve destoryed his plans of an amazing proposal. Phew! Thank heavens that I dodged that bullet.

I’m just really glad that I got rid of all the toxicity from my life. I feel so much better now and I breathe so much better now.🙏🏻
Maiya · F
@Underconstruction Never. That’s for sure.
Maiya · F
@SW-User Thank You. 😍
tallpowerhouseblonde · 31-35, F
@Maiya the now ex just does not have any morals.
SW-User
Get rid of him. It wasn't the first time. Good luck.
Maiya · F
@wildbill83 Not a bad idea though.
wildbill83 · 36-40, M
rolling them in chicken wire and plastic sheeting or shrink wrap and dumping them in ocean works better... doesn't stink up your trunk and they don't float to surface... 😉 😅
Maiya · F
@wildbill83 Not a very violent person. Just happy to get him out of my life.
SW-User
[i]it's just one time[/i]
Lol dude, sure
Maiya · F
@SW-User I know right.
SW-User
He's probably done this several times with several women. The trust is gone tbh. I'm sorry this has happened to you and I can't imagine your pain and frustration. I'm not gonna tell you what to do but I think it's best to move on. Life's too short.
Maiya · F
@SW-User Thank you.
Maiya · F
Thank you guys. I’m going to kick him out of my house right now. Throw all his stuff out(and not in a box). I don’t need the negativity he’ll bring into my life. It hurts now but it’ll hurt more if I let him stay.
@Maiya Keep us posted.......
Maiya · F
KingofPizza2 · 36-40, M
If you don’t want to be with him anymore, then therapy isn’t going to help anyway. Just end it for real.
Maiya · F
@KingofPizza2 Thank you. Just needed some moral support.
funfan · 46-50, M
@Maiya He's right. Kick him to the curb and don't look back.
MellyMel22 · F
[i][c=#BF0080]I would pack his bags. You’ll never see him the same way no matter how you try..

I wish you the best with whatever you decide to do though ❤[/c][/i]
Maiya · F
@MellyMel22 I’m doing the same.
HalfBloodPrince · 22-25, F
@TJNewton he cheated, he will do it again. My ex did this, I was stupid and believed he'd never do it again.... He did it again. Its your decision. You do what you need to do.
Tminus6453 · M
I'd leave in 2 seconds, he's now a slimeball cause he cheated on you and that mistrust will always be between you two
Maiya · F
@Tminus6453 You’re right. Thank you.
funfan · 46-50, M
As I mentioned in the comments, dump him as soon as you can.
Maiya · F
@funfan I Have. ☺️
purplepen · 51-55, F
@Maiya Good. Congratulations.
Maiya · F
Can you imagine that my best friend is on his side. She just texted me and wants me to talk it out. She says and I quote “ He’s too good looking to not have affairs. You should just talk and let it go. Don’t be so dramatic”
Looks like I’m gonna have to kick her out of my life too. Wow,
Shayla · F
@Maiya That is just crazy. Too good looking to have morals and be faithful? More like too self centered to have an awesome gf.
purplepen · 51-55, F
@Maiya Good looking is no excuse for affairs. Nothing is. Creeps are often good looking to the average woman.
Sujeet · 26-30, M
@Maiya leave her too
I am sure she also have same minded girl who used to cheat and definitely she don't know meaning of love and relationship
Tell him I don’t want to be with a cheater so I’m braking up with u
correctingright · 41-45, M
Relationships that don't have trust fail.
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
Your smart. I would leave him
Sujeet · 26-30, M
Just ask him to leave right now
Without any conversation no words
If people can cheat one time they can do it again it's not a big deal for them.
It just a cheat so just ask him to leave without saying any word
Maiya · F
@Sujeet I will. Thank you.
Sujeet · 26-30, M
@Maiya your welcome dear I can understand how you feel I felt like this before you can go and check my profile so if need any help you can ask me
Take care
SW-User
@SW-User Can you cheat on me even if you're married and you aren't my boyfriend?
SW-User
@SW-User I was just asking if you could, not if you will 😢
SW-User
@SW-User im happy with just yewychan 😊
SW-User
@SW-User yayyyyy
TexChik · F
Nope , it’s obvious you will never trust him again ... get rid of him and give yourself time to get over the heart ache . So sorry that happened .
Maiya · F
@TexChik Thank you.
tallpowerhouseblonde · 31-35, F
It could get worse if his secretary takes legal action for unfair dismissal and goes to the media.
purplepen · 51-55, F
@tallpowerhouseblonde That would get him in big trouble especially with the metoo movement.
tallpowerhouseblonde · 31-35, F
@purplepen she gave into temptation but it is not a reason for dismissal.She could take him to the cleaners.
purplepen · 51-55, F
If you do decide to forgive him, that doesn't mean you ever have to let him back into your life again. Trust and forgiveness are very different things.
SW-User
Just do what you want to do. Looks like you don't believe in him or the hurt was too bad so better to end everything.
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
Women never leave a cheater. I’m not wasting time on you.
Maiya · F
@MrBrownstone You already have.
correctingright · 41-45, M
@MrBrownstone When I was younger me and a friend volunteered to help a lady and her two kids move from a two story house because her boyfriend was abusive. Two weeks later she we found out she moved back in.
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
You don't need his permission or agreement to break up with him.
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funfan · 46-50, M
@Maiya I'm agnostic as well and also think religion has no place in this discussion. You can forgive, but not forget.
Maiya · F
@funfan I know. If not forgiving a cheater lands a person in hell, then I’m glad I don’t believe in afterlife.
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HalfBloodPrince · 22-25, F
@hahaheheuhhaha it takes two people to cheat.
Maiya · F
@hahaheheuhhaha Cheater alert 🚨
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Then don't. If you don't think you'll be able to regain the trust (and that's what it would take) , don't let him waste any more of your time.
Prisoner619 · 26-30, M
Maiya · F
@Prisoner619 What exactly do you find so funny?
Prisoner619 · 26-30, M
@Maiyareminds me of my past relationships.


no idea why you thinking too much. Just pack your bags and leave right now
Maiya · F
@Prisoner619 well technically he has to leave.
purplepen · 51-55, F
He sounds creepy.

 
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