Is it better to have a hole than an a$$hole in your life?

Depends on he sort of asshole. Some are wonderful people. Some assholes are also arrogant sons of bitches who have no place living among other people.

But yes, probably.

If the hole is in the heart, then certainly not recommended
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for the latter, well, at times - certain things are really beyond one's control.

Assholes are essential for survial.