Could you ever stay with someone that cheated on you?

I just don't know what I would do if faced with the situation

This question, in general, not you asking it but people viewing it as black and white needs to go away. There can be waaaay too many factors beyond the cheating. For example my oldest son is autistic. My daughter is “gifted “ academically. Both kids required things that regular school does not provide. Very very expensive things! Like we could have bought 3 houses expensive! So if my wife or I had cheated on the other back then, the one who didn’t cheat would have been like, hope you had fun, now back to paying for and “curing” autism!!

It’s just too different of a decision for the people going through it to be able to stand on principle! Unfortunately when those real life reasons end up making someone stay, often times they end up becoming the bad guy in other people’s eyes!! “Oh I would have..,” “How could she stay after...”

If you have a friend going through it. Keep your opinion to yourself. You most likely don’t have all the facts!

At the same time, all those real life things DO NOT excuse the behavior!!

Best wishes Coprolalia!! Make the decision that’s right for you!!

No. I tried, but eventually left. He promised he would never do it again and I gave him a chance. But then I would always think "why isnt he home yet? What's he doing? Why does he all of a sudden want to go out with friends?" And that wasn't fair to either of us, so I ended it. He may have never cheated again, but I wasn't able to trust. So I walked.

If my wife told me right now she is or was cheating on me... I would be fine.

I certainly am not providing happiness, if she can find some way to be happy... so be it.

If she cheated in the “good” years, I would probably feel different.

I would depend on who, why, who they cheated with [the relationship between them] and most importantly how they behaved after.

Likely not going to stay, but I'm not unable to forgive to move forward.

I'm in that situation now. I guess time will tell.

Maybe when I decide to have kids one day I might do it for them. Who knows. But at my current situation, as for now, HELL NO.

I could now.
But not when it was at the starting stage.

I tried to make it work with my ex husband. I believed he was truly remorseful, but we never could get past it completely.

If it was just about the sex with a random girl and no emotional connection, then maybe yes. But I would force him to do tests for STDs if he wanted to have anything to do with me again. 😂

Alright, I don't know, never been in that situation.

No. Especially if they say "It meant nothing".

No. I would forgive him, but I couldn't be with him, because the trust would be destroyed.

Yes, and I did (though we ended up breaking up for a completely different reason).

everyone will say no of course.

Yes. Everyone deserves a second chance.

I enjoy it actually.😚

Never

No

No

I really like FunReader's response.

It is hard to walk away from a marriage, it becomes more than a relationship, there may be children, other family, friends assets all intertwined. Could it be something that coyld be worked through, then you should/could try.